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My gf got mad when she found out my ex was trans. Am I wrong for not saying anything since it never came up? I feel like she’s a woman so who cares and also it’s not really her business since it’s my past gf
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Anonymous 2d

It shouldn’t really be relevant to y’all’s current relationship so no idk why she’s mad 😭

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Anonymous 2d

yeah that seems like a really weird thing to be upset about

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Anonymous 2d

I think you should be worried that she reacted that strongly. She’s got some weird ass beliefs she needs to reevaluate.

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Anonymous 2d

I’d be a little upset, especially if I was trying to understand my partner completely and I felt like there were things that he was keeping from me. To some women, it does make a difference, even if those things see insignificant to you, but you’re better off dating someone who doesn’t care

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Anonymous 2d

don’t think you’re in the wrong.

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Anonymous 1d

don’t think you were wrong, but it can still be a trust thing. Some women just want to know that kind of info up front. I say this as someone in the LGBTQ+ community, it’s not about being transphobic, but people have different comfort levels, especially if your ex wasn’t fully transitioned yet and still had male parts. Communication just helps avoid misunderstandings

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Anonymous 2d

But she isn’t tho

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

Wdym

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

Still a dude

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

Even if I took your point of view it’s not her business regardless

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2d

Yeah idk. I thinks she’s mad because she met her once and I didn’t go out of my way to tell her later. My ex is generally above average and it’s almost impossible to tell she’s trans (I didn’t even know until I asked her out).

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2d

I mean personally if she asked it wouldn’t lie, but it never came up so why does it matter. It’s like if I were to ask a girl about not only her past but I wanted more details like how many guys she’s been with

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

honestly red flag. even setting aside that she's your ex, it's really weird to feel entitled to know other people's gender/sexual identities

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

A lot of guys do actually ask girls questions like that. Anyway, how did she find out? 👀

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2d

I think she stalks her ig still out of jealousy since she looks a certain way. But she recently posted a story about her anniversary coming out lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

It seems like you know you might be dating a red flag

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 2d

the whole transphobia thing yeah but also her perception that you must be gay/bi and how that’s revolting

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

I mean if that’s something against her beliefs then it kinda is her business, but yea I do see your point of why would you bring it up out of nowhere, a lot of people don’t like talking about ex’s in current relationships. I’m not sure I can understand both sides

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