
95% of men who tried to have sex with women in the last two years resorted to coercive behavior. My brother left a condom in the car one day, and he’s in a frat. It would be naive for me to expect that the men in my immediate family are not part of the coercive 95%. Especially given what frats are known for. I can’t properly vet my own family members because I don’t see them when they’re alone with a sex partner— that would be gross.
You have no idea how it feels to read actual research showing clear evidence of widespread betrayal on this scale. As someone whose solution to almost every question is the scientific method. You think I want this to be true? I wish I could wake up tomorrow and have all this truth just be a bad dream, but it’s not. It’s reality, and it sucks.
Here’s the full citation O'Sullivan, L. F., & Ronis, S. T. (2026). Isolate, inebriate, intimidate, repeat: high rates of sexual force against women are reported when young men given anonymous surveys. Journal of Interpersonal Violence. Advance online publication. https://doi.org/10.1177/08862605261432630
But I don’t need to convince you. I don’t even care what you think. You’ve probably done something on this list and just don’t think it’s bad. If you’ve ever lied to get sex from someone who said no, or asked repeatedly, you’re guilty of the things in this study and therefore not worth interacting with.
Maybe if you actually read the study you’re citing you’d realize it isn’t talking about 95% of all men: “This research was designed to focus on men who admit to having intentionally and knowingly sexually aggressed against a woman who they knew did not want sex nor consented to it…” They are basically asking self-reported rapists if they’ve ever forced/coerced a woman into sex. What do you expect? Now do a study asking the same questions to self-reported “nice guy” virgins. 🤣