Anonymous #1 5w

Sure but what could I even say to start?

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Anonymous OP 5w

well what about a high body count or what you feel like it implies about him specifically bothers you?

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Anonymous #4 5w

I guess like him being easy in the past whereas I wasn’t.. and like him comparing me to others

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Anonymous OP 5w

If he’s comparing you to past partners I’d definitely talk to him. His sexual relationships have nothing to do with yours. Inexperienced or not

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Anonymous OP 5w

i agree with #1. if he’s comparing you to others that’s definitely an issue but if you worry he thinks about it/you don’t know i don’t think that him having more partners necessarily automatically means that he is doing that any more than you might be comparing him to your other 2 partners for example. what is it about being “easy” that makes you uncomfortable/you don’t like?

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Anonymous #4 5w

I guess I just am insecure and thinking about if he’s comparing me or missing them etc

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Anonymous #3 5w

why should she have sex with someone who obviously doesn’t think sex is special? the fact that his body is so easily accessible means his loyalty likely isn’t high either lol

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Anonymous #1 5w

different viewpoints on intimacy = incompatibility long term. he clearly doesn’t see sex as special, so every time they do it he won’t feel that emotional connection like her

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Anonymous #5 5w

That’s what I notice in partners that are used to hookup culture. Sex isn’t as special to them anymore in of itself. Not necessarily bc they have committed relationships now. It may not be OP and her bf’s case but if she feels like sex isn’t as intimate as it should be to them they should talk about it. But the internal feeling may just be personal insecurity bc he’s used to experience and she’s only slept with 2 ppl other than him

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Anonymous OP 5w

If anything i would guess that having been with more people would mean missing them would be less likely compared to someone who has only been with people who they were in long relationships with. if you aren’t comparing him to your exes i don’t think more bodies (which personally i’d see as morally neutral) is a completely separate/unrelated to a mean thing such as comparing people to your current partner.

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Anonymous OP 5w

what level of closeness he needs in order to feel comfortable being intimate with someone compared to you is not necessarily related in any way to his care for you. i’d suggest talking to him about it so that he is aware of your insecurities/worries in this department and so you can get some reassurance but if it is just difficulty with what you associate with a high body count and not something with him specifically, i don’t think this should prevent this from being a long, healthy relationship

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Anonymous #5 5w

This was like what I was getting at

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Anonymous #5 5w

Yesss this is what I think I’m thinking

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Anonymous OP 5w

just as an example to put it into perspective, there are other people and cultures who/that consider any physical touch between a man and woman to be an intimate act, or would consider revealing or certain parts of the body that i for example show all the time in public to be intimate. on the other hand of the spectrum, naturists/nudists don’t find any body part to be too “special” to be shown. this doesn’t make any of them a good/bad person or more likely to betray someone they care about.

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Anonymous #4 5w

Yeah true

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Anonymous OP 5w

i am putting “special” in quotes because i think that sharing it with the world doesn’t mean you care about it any less. i care a lot about my hair and it is very special to me and i also do not cover it

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Anonymous #4 5w

Yeah that makes sense

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Anonymous OP 5w

sorry i didn’t see the replies until now but i hope i was somewhat helpful! in the least mean to them way possible, i would not take the comments saying that this means that he won’t be loyal because of this to heart. i hope everything goes well!

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Anonymous #4 5w

Thank you 🫶

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Anonymous #5 5w

we’re in our most horny years its basic biology, sex means different things to different people. but if you feel that insecure abt it bring it up 🤷‍♀️

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