Anonymous OP 22h

Generally from talking to people it’s just a mix of not understanding and their only experience with polyamorous people before I meet them being problematic internet polycules

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Anonymous #3 22h

I mean so can monogamy in different ways, people just dont see those problems in the same way because its normative

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 18h

You are also MAGA so I don’t care for your comments lol

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 18h

This is my main confusion because they all look different why is there this conception of poly people being like the same dynamic looking the same and acting the same

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Anonymous #7 18h

I think this is the main situation. People react with disgust because it isnt normative and they dont care to investigate why thats their first reaction

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Anonymous #1 18h

i am not maga 🤣 u cant just call everyone u dont like maga lmfaoo

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Anonymous #6 18h

Ive never actually heard of a real life polygamous group tbh, all the ppl in non monogamous relationships are queer and usually anarchist, hence not really believing in monogamy. I think there are def problems when there is an imbalance of power in any relationship but its def more obvious when its a guy with a whole harem. Can i ask what you mean about promoting a lifestyle with no protections? All the poly ppl i know practice some of the safest sex out of anyone i know

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Anonymous #1 18h

bro is like a toddler that knows one (1) insult

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 18h

So what do u mean dawg

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Anonymous #11 17h

Also I’m ngl this is some shit that somehow “western” or more “modern countries” have positive takes on. You’ll never see survivors of abuse in third world countries be pro poly and this has mostly been used by men in a negative way and idk this is just some white ass shit tbh. It’s just my opinion but y’all take shit that you outlawed or colonized or killed people over historically and then become those things then act oppressed 😭 like aren’t we all tired of you’re god damn bs.

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 15h

You said you were MAGA before though lol

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Anonymous #1 15h

i have never ever said i was maga lmfao pathological liar much??

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Anonymous OP 15h

i mean everyone i know of who is poly looks the same way

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 15h

Like what?

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 15h

Bro this is some white ass shit, just stfu you 2, we get it y’all love to be oppressed and argue like you guys are some kinda of moral beings, just let people be, if they want to be poly fuck them whatever just don’t force or lie to other people about this shit

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Anonymous #11 15h

These r some of the best criticisms ive heard of general acceptance of polyamory. Theres def a gentrification/appropriation aspect of monogamy/polygamy being enforced by imperialism while those in the imperial homeland get to practice polyamory as if its some hippie-invented revolutionary way to love. I think smth similar could be said about queerness (im thinking about two spirit ppl and nb ppl) but yikyak does not have the word count for the nuance needed for that convo lol

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Anonymous OP 15h

Omg thank you, like I’m tired of hearing white people who think their povs matter and make sense and never account for people of colors experiences like all this shit came from other cultures first and it’s not always taken as a positive thing, it’s often a form of oppression. This is an example of the limits of white feminism but people don’t see that. Be poly if you want just don’t make it a big deal and honestly I don’t agree with it cause of the things I have seen it do to women

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Anonymous #11 15h

But if y’all want it go for it just stop asking for attention. You guys love to take other cultures even if they are negative and apply it to yourselves and pretend to be oppressed. You guys live in a bubble and act as if everything you are going through is a big deal. It wasn’t a big deal when you destroyed countries like Iran, India, Pakistan, Africa as a whole continent, Palestine, etc but now you get to take aspects of their cultures especially lgbtqia issues and pretend to oppressed

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Anonymous OP 14h

Ya cause it’s probably some white queer shit, you’re peoples activism’s end when it comes to seeing other cultures and the negative effects also most common is the group is lead by a man despite what you have seen, also no matter how many protections you use std/sti transmission would be high so use protection no matter what. If your poly just be poly and stfu about it. There is a damn good reason why other cultures despise the practice and I suggest being more educated about this and safe sex

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Anonymous #11 14h

huh?? LOL

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Anonymous OP 14h

they look like their entire house stinks of cat pee and BO

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 13h

Oh ur trolling lol

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Anonymous OP 13h

i’m being serious 💀

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Anonymous #11 13h

Idk dawg like i agree with the sentiment and esp the ways how white queers get a lot of privilege and dont use it to speak on how homophobia in colonized spaces is a product of imperialism. However like it feels like a stretch to imply polyamory or queer identity is stolen from other cultures wholesale. There are aspects tho fs. And like, queer ppl are def oppressed but i see ur point ab white ppl rlly clinging to that oppression like a badge

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Anonymous OP 13h

Ive heard of two poly relationships (explicitly poly btw), one all female/femme-presenting and in both, they introduced a new person into the group and someone got pushed out and left without access to supposedly shared funds. Iirc they all had saved up money to live their dream life and pooled it together, but because it was willingly given (???)/a gift, the person who got pushed out was no longer privy to it? One person was even homeless, I believe this was 2022 but I’ll research it again.

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Anonymous #11 13h

Respectfully i am educated on safe sex. Im on prep i get tested regularly im on bc my gf tells me if her gf has any new sexual partners etc etc

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Anonymous #11 12h

YES this is white people shit bro 😭 i also think it’s incredibly weird from a health perspective because encouraging multiple (sexual) partners at once continuously sharing bodily fluids just sounds so gross. That’s why I’m big on monogamy, because I don’t feel comfortable sharing bodies simultaneously with others

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Anonymous OP 11h

Idk bro there is a limit at some point right? You can’t just apply everything you see from other cultures and expect everyone to accept it? They couldn’t accept us doing it but expect everyone to accept them? You feeling me?

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Anonymous #12 11h

Do whatever you want just don’t make it everyone’s problem you know? That’s how I feel and I’m pretty sure no amount of protections can stop you from ever getting an infection, it’s a risk so take it if it’s something you’re interested but eh. Most of the poly people I know are in closed networks like they are a trio or a quad and no one dates outside that so people who date outside those networks make no sense to me and seem to just do it for attention and just to cheat

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Anonymous #6 10h

Yeah and i know like 10 monogamous dv victims including myself. Just cuz theres shitty people dont mean it was because of the dynamic right? I know hella monogamous relationships that went about as well as youre describing, like my parents are the only parents out of most ppl i know who are still together lmao

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Anonymous twirling_tornado 10h

Seriously silly lol

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Anonymous OP 10h

Listing your parents as a happy monogamous couple doesn’t refute that. If your entire defense of poly is “bad people exist in monogamy too,” then you haven’t actually addressed the criticism of poly at all. It’s not just about what you see in a more western perspective try to see it in a different angle. Not every poly or monogamous relationship works. I don’t think anyone should promote poly since it is sexually irresponsible and technically normalizes cheating.

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Anonymous #11 10h

Its not cheating if everyone consents.... i also literally did address your criticism and thought it was pretty decent besides the sexually irresponsible bit. Obv its not the same as strict monogamy but id be fucking around if i werent in a relationship anyways lol, thats just like a difference in opinion/lifestyle and thats ok

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Anonymous OP 10h

But should it really be okay? I’d understand if it was a closed relationship between a trio or a quad or however many but if you are going outside those that’s not a poly relationship, that’s just a sexually irresponsible open mess

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Anonymous #11 10h

Even if ppl get tested after every new partner? Like everybody else does?

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Anonymous OP 8h

This is very true, but I mean we’ve come so far in society that victims of abuse or divorced people have protections. Sometimes people don’t get it or choose not to get it, but it helps a lot of others. As far as I’m aware, poly people don’t have that. This makes me think the dynamic, although probably very similar to monogamous relationships internally, is not externally protected. I think polygamous marriages are only allowed in a few states; what happens if you get pushed out like above?

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