Ask Women on Sidechat | I need advice, I told my bf that I was SA as a kid bc I randomly had a panic attack over it lol. I feel weird now that he knows and Idk how to move forward. Our dynamic is the same and all but I just feel so gross now that he knows what the hell do i do?

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I need advice, I told my bf that I was SA as a kid bc I randomly had a panic attack over it lol. I feel weird now that he knows and Idk how to move forward. Our dynamic is the same and all but I just feel so gross now that he knows what the hell do i do?

Anonymous 2w

you're projecting the shame and distress you feel about it onto him. if he's a decent person, he isn't going to judge you or think about you differently, and you have to give him the chance to show you that.

Anonymous

#1 2w

He was actually kind of amazing about it so idk why I feel like this

Anonymous

OP 2w

because you feel so bad about it having happened to you (which is totally understandable, it's obviously a horrible experience) that you think other people would have the same negative emotions towards you that you feel towards yourself if they find out. it kind of makes sense from your perspective and it can be really hard to separate your point of view from how others see you. you're not damaged or made worse because someone did something horrible to you, that evil is in them, not you.