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PSA to men: if you go on a first date with a woman, be mindful of her safety preferences when planning. Most women will not want you to come to their home on the first date, nor do they typically want to go to your home. It puts us in unnecessary danger
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Anonymous 6w

I’ve gone on first dates with many different men over the years and I’ve found that very few think of my safety preferences. The dating scene can be a lot scarier for women. There are many men out there who want to harm us. Please try to consider our perspective in your planning. Just a tip for anyone going on future first dates❤️

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Anonymous 6w

For sure, I always plan around them. Do you wanna drive separate, wanna do something small first, shit like that. Home off the bat says you’re trying to fuck

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Anonymous 6w

THIS! There’s a few things men should note of for first dates. It’s nice to offer to drive her but a lot of women feel safer with their own car so they bc can leave if they need to. Don’t be overly physical unless she’s returning the energy. Dont try to go home with her after

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Anonymous 6w

Grabbing some lunch and going for a walk in a park and getting to know the person is usually how I plan first dates,

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Anonymous 6w

I usually say send me a near by place to pick up, if not I give alternative like send me the total for your uber.

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Anonymous 6w

Went on a first date with a guy off an app and he went out for frozen yogurt (he kept calling it ice cream) and walked around downtown. About 30 minutes into the date he pointed down a dark street with nothing to look at or anywhere to go and asked if I wanted to walk down there. I quickly said I had to work the next morning and said goodbye. Date wasn’t going that well and I had gotten the ick before even meeting him in person so that was the final straw.

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Anonymous 6w

I must get hella lucky then because I almost always get invited back or vice versa

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

(Guy here) brothers, a big thing you can do to help is just ASK what comfort level they’re at. Offer to pay for an Uber if they don’t want to be picked up, offer to meet at a local public place, etc.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

THIS! THIS! PLEASE! IM BEGGING YOU! It isn’t because we women think you specifically are a creep, it is just that the risk is too high and the potential consequences are deadly.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6w

I grew up hearing horror stories so I try and be incredibly mindful about all of that stuff, my last date I offered to give the location ahead of time and turn on her gps for her friend so she could check in 😅

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

I promise the most attractive thing you can do is genuinely think about her comfort!!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6w

Consent and safety are sexy, I’ll die on this hill

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

It shouldn’t be the only reason people consider it but it’s a beneficial part. The amount of times a girls told me it’s hot how safe I make them feel is damn near 100%

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 6w

The amount of girls* lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 6w

And going to a public place is key, I once had a guy ask if I wanted to go hiking the first date I thought I was gonna get murdered

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 6w

Nothing wrong with a coffee date

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 6w

Yes a coffee date is perfect

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 6w

lol if your single and in cali at any point I’d love to take you on a coffee date

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

Ngl this is the BARE MINIMUM however if a guy asked my comfort level and offered to pay my uber that would be immediate green flags and a turn on for me

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 6w

I 100% agree that it’s the minimum snd yet somehow it’s always a surprise when there my concern lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 6w

THIS. Was asked out by a guy I’ve known on and off since we were like 13 (my mom knows his mom) and we went to the same uni and he wanted to go on a hike and I still said no I was busy like wtf. He got the hint and asked me out to dinner afterwards like a normal person

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Anonymous replying to -> #13 6w

If you get invited back that’s different and most likely means she’s really likes you. I think the post was trying to warn guys don’t push her to come to your house or force yourself at hers, if she wants you there she’ll invite you. So yes, you must get lucky and they all like you enough to invite you

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 6w

oh yeah, no expectations is always the way to go!

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