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Have yall ever felt emotionally pressured to “please” ur bf and give them sex.. he never said I had to do it but he told me how his friends do it more often w their gfs and that he feels unwanted..

Anonymous 5w

hey so i think some of yall are experiencing assault..

Anonymous 5w

Oh absolutely. One time I finally said "no im not in the mood is it okay if we just cuddle" he went quiet and pouted the entire time. I was in pain and on my period... Usually he would just push his crotch against me (like nudging me with his hard on) until I gave in

Anonymous 5w

Umm so dumb his ass girly. You deserve so much better than to have sex when you don’t want to just to feel like a “good” gf.

Anonymous 5w

Omg 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Anonymous 5w

Absolutely not, he would never pressure me into it or push if there were any signs of not wanting to. There are plenty of ways for him to feel wanted, if sex is the only way that's a red flag (at least to me). This has been the case for all my relationships.

Anonymous 5w

IS he unwanted? Obviously he shouldn’t be pressuring you (on purpose), but is there a reason you don’t sleep together much? Is there anything he could be doing to make himself more attractive to you, or is it just a mismatched sex drive in general?

Anonymous 5w

comparing ur sex life with his friends’ is so unhealthy and unfair to you. every relationship is different and it’s own and it seems that instead of actually talking to you about it and listening to ur needs, he’s trying to guilt you by using comparison. “oh she does that for him why can’t u do that for me”… oh idk maybe bc i’m not her?!

Anonymous 5w

Thankfully no but it’s a very serious problem if he’s making you feel that way. Just be careful with this because sometimes it can go beyond just making you feel guilty about it

Anonymous 5w

Yes. He literally used the word “unfair” bc he made me finish but he takes fucking forever and I got tired of

Anonymous 5w

I’ve felt emotionally pressure into sex to some extent with pretty much every man I’ve been with. It’s ridiculous and not okay

Anonymous 5w

girl what? i’m a guy and i find this absurd…

Anonymous 5w

Yes me with my ex and I realized after we broke up I was just justifying sexual abuse

Anonymous 5w

How I found out I was Les

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Anonymous

#2 5w

Then there were times where he just didn't ask and started taking my clothes off (Eventually lead to me being raped twice)

Anonymous

#2 5w

I had a similar thing happen to me— do u also feel a bit disrespected and uncared for when they pout

Anonymous

#2 5w

Omg I’m so sorry this happened to you

Anonymous

OP 5w

Oh absolutely. I also think its straight up childish. I kinda get being bummed out but to the extent of pouting? Grow up yk?

Anonymous

OP 5w

Thanks, i just broke up with him in August and still coming to terms with it

Anonymous

#3 5w

I agree

Anonymous

#2 5w

Yall deserved better🫶🏼

Anonymous

#4 5w

I feel like he doesn’t put in effort to turn me on. Like he expects it to go 0-100 but I have voiced that I need to like feel emotionally cared for in beforehand. Like I won’t get turned on if we doing have as much meaningful conversation and I guess that’s a need that isn’t met in the relationship.

Anonymous

#4 5w

So I yees he feels unwanted but i also feel not turned on by him emotionally.

Anonymous

#11 5w

i had an ex like this who is an ex for a reason. it lead to him always pouting and not rly taking no for an answer and then feeling like i didn’t love him when i would literally be healing from tearing from the last time 😀. his attitude also made me feel even less like having sex bc why tf are you acting like that? it was so childish and led to me being in a lot of un-consensual situations.

Anonymous

#11 5w

i know this is getting long, but long story short, stand ur ground girl and be careful bc a man who attaches love to sex and makes u feel guilty for not “giving it to him” can put u in bad situations.

Anonymous

#2 5w

holy shit everything down to breaking up in august are we the same person???

Anonymous

#8 5w

Someone dmed me and called me evil bc “he’s probably circumcised and that’s why he can’t cum” No actually he has a drug problem that makes it so he can’t cum but cute assumption really made me giggle🤣 (I’m not with him anymore btw)

Anonymous

#2 5w

Did u tell him after or in the moment that u felt like u were being raped? This happens in my relationship too, but I think she is ok with me grinding on her to finish. Are there signs that this is not a healthy relationship if we have different sex drives? We do just cuddle when she's not in the mood, but it’s hard cause cuddling w her turns me on

Anonymous

#16 5w

One time i kept telling him to stop and he didn't because he "thought I was joking" but i was pushing him off Another time i was inebriated and he brought me home. I thought he was going to let me rest but he got on top of me and i was too drunk to move or speak

Anonymous

#16 5w

i’m sorry to jump in here but if ur partner is not clearly saying yes both verbally and physically, it should be a sign to not proceed forward. it should never have to come to someone telling the other they are raping them.