Anonymous OP 6d

That’s why we use “whistles,” in reference to Brent’s final paragraph. Women feel more comfortable when men signal that they are safe people rather than simply men. These are “green flag” behaviors which evoke an alternative perception in others, one that doesn’t elicit a rift at the moment of acquaintance.

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Anonymous OP 6d

My “whistle” became alternative fashion. It was a pretty sudden shift, and I almost immediately noticed the change in demeanor of others towards me. It wasn’t why I liked it at first, but this new perception it garnered became a staple for why I maintained my style.

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Anonymous OP 6d

Even people that knew me before my “whistle” seemed more relaxed, which made me more relaxed. It settled the inner turmoil over a universally discomfiting dynamic and made me a rare male safe-space; now, I have mostly women as friends and find them more open to me than many men. Where I had originally felt helpless in the face of stony women, I now had people simply relieved to feel safe around a man.

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Anonymous OP 6d

(this is a repost btw, but I wanted more people to see it because it’s important for men and women to understand each other and, in this case, for men to healthily and productively tackle their frustration over this)

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Anonymous forget_me_not 6d

thanks for taking seriously :]

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Anonymous OP 6d

Ya welx, I liked your comments (didn’t seem rage baitey or disingenuous)

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Anonymous forget_me_not 5d

Thanks for the response :] I should have specified which parts were relevant to who, but the essay was meant to vindicate OOP’s feelings & better illustrate to others who didn’t sympathize how OOP and many others felt my personal responses were directed at OOP as suggestions and indirectly as instructions to others (i.e. the commenters on the og post) on how to address another’s concerns over this specific frustration

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Anonymous OP 5d

I didn’t see OOPs post

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Anonymous forget_me_not 5d

it was this one, OP said more in comments. I realize this post is less effective without the other post as context 😭

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Anonymous OP 5d

Aaaah

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