Anonymous #1 10w

Why are men so obsessed with being forceful and harmful to women in sex

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Disgusting. If we need numbing spray for me to get through what he’s doing we’re doing it wrong.

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Anonymous #3 10w

No fr there are so many levels of creep in this post

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Anonymous #4 10w

Exactly.

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Anonymous OP 10w

Honestly I also felt really jealous that another guy had used my girl like that and I didn’t.

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Anonymous OP 10w

If your girl starts gagging or seeing even slightly uncomfortable you stop immediately. And if you want to be nice and help you stop doing the thing causing problems, you don’t fucking by numbing spray. If it’s that hard for her to do and she’s not particularly into it, just do other stuff

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Anonymous OP 10w

Creepy as hell of you to be more bothered about guy got to be rough with your gf while you didn’t. Especially since it sounds like she didn’t particularly enjoy it

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Anonymous OP 10w

You’re jealous that someone else got to do a violent sex act on her that she didn’t really feel comfortable with and you didn’t? What?

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Anonymous #2 10w

This poor girl. She has got to stand up and get away from these men. Hope she’s safe

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Anonymous #2 10w

Guys she said she liked it 😭😭😭 what am I supposed to do

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Anonymous OP 10w

I mean if she liked it ok: still ask before buying the spray bc otherwise it seems presumptuous. Also don’t ask to do it again, wait for her to ask if she rly does genuinely want to do it

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Anonymous OP 10w

You said she wasn’t sure if she liked how rough the other guy was with her and that you were jealous you couldn’t do that with her. You only said she liked whatever you did with her, implying he was much rougher and you’re jealous of that

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Anonymous #6 10w

I’m kinky as hell, numb me up and use me idc

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Anonymous OP 10w

It seems obvious to me that you should ask if she would like that or not, idk why people ask yikyak if they think someone would like something instead of just asking their partners or whatever tbh

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Anonymous OP 10w

Honestly I’d make sure she actually liked it, I’ve had many manyyy friends tell their guy something was ok or they liked it bc they didn’t want him to feel guilty/bad or wanted him to be happy. I’d wait to see if she brings it up again/really pay attention to how she talks about it and her body language. Then and only then ask if the spray may be something she’d like to try but make sure not to put any negative or positive associations w the idea.

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Anonymous #4 10w

Only do it if she asks enthusiastically

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Anonymous OP 10w

I’m a man

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Anonymous OP 10w

That didn’t sound like an enthusiastic yes and she still vomited which isn’t good? And numbing isn’t the same as just regular rough sex that could harm her in the future. I’d ask before thinking about doing it

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Anonymous #5 10w

How could it harm her… it’s completely safe

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Anonymous OP 10w

OP you need to do some more research (respectfully)

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Anonymous OP 10w

No it’s not? Do you even know what numbing would do the inside of the human body?

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Anonymous #4 10w

I’m literally a doctor so chill

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Anonymous #5 10w

Yes I do

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Anonymous #1 10w

Lots of people are into rough shit…

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Anonymous OP 10w

So do research. If you’re a “doctor” at this age you would think twice before pushing your kinks on her when she’s already gagging and throwing up. Bc rough sex is not the same as just giving straight head it’s a vaginal vs oral thing. She didn’t even say she liked it she said “idk” about the hookup. Ya sound like a hornball feeding off of someone’s past sexual vulnerability that has nothing to do with you?

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Anonymous #5 10w

It wouldn’t be healthy for her

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Anonymous OP 10w

Maybe.. but being a little rough feels different from wanting to literally numb someone so you can do something they can’t handle otherwise.

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Anonymous #1 10w

My bf won’t do anything hard unless I explicitly ask bc he’s too worried about my safety and comfort, maybe I can’t see live through any other lens’ now bc I’ve spent my whole adult life with a partner who has made it clear every step of the way sexual gratification isn’t half as interesting to him as my comfort

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Anonymous #5 10w

Yahh the soft pallet is really prone to bruising as is the throat, if she can’t feel it and he’s being rough she could end up with some pretty bad bruises

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