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I’m across the US visiting family. At this time, my gf is back home dealing with a pregnancy scare. She is really anxious abt it & abt me leaving bc of her family’s history. I wanna let her know that I will love her & support her forever. What’s the best
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Anonymous 1w

Way to communicate that? We both don’t want kids, and we tried to get around that by her having a copper IUD (she also has PCOS) but she expressed that her period is late and it might mean that she is pregnant. She took 2 pregnancy tests and both were negative, but it could also be too early to tell since she took them only 10ish days since the last time we did it, so she is still very anxious about it. She’s going to take another 2 in about a week or so to see if anything changes, but her

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Anonymous 1w

If she has a copper IUD it’s probably only a late period, and if the test was taken 10 days after (or one day after a missed period) then it’s likely a true negative. But of course this all can still be very alarming. Did she happen to take plan b at all?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

anxiety is seemingly consuming her at home. She deals with a lot of harsh anxiety issues that basically progress as she continues thinking in her head. I want to let her know that no matter the outcome, I will be there for her. She is the one for me, and if we do or do not have a child, that will not impact my feelings with her

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

No. We have been together for 3 and a half years and have had sex for most of that time. This is the first time we have encountered this issue

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Periods can be late for a lot of different reasons, if she has an IUD and multiple tests were negative (after a week) it’s probably alright? Taking more tests a week/few days out is still definitely a good move though, just to make sure.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Not much you can do until those second tests besides comforting her, but it sounds like you’re already doing a good job at that!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Im trying my best. I can’t be physically by her side right now since im all the way across the country, but she struggles with serious anxiety and I know this whole situation is eating at her while she’s alone at our apartment. Though they can help, words aren’t the best way that I can reach her and let her know that I’m going to be with her through thick and thin. I’m trying to figure out, if at least there’s one girl here with heavy anxiety issues, a way that I can communicate that to her

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