Ask Women on Sidechat | I’m 25 and my boyf is 22. we’ve been a LDR since may. he doesn’t know where he’ll be next year fs yet. i graduate in may&want to move to him. he isn’t sure abt me&doesn’t know if he will be ready for that commitment. what would u do atp?

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I’m 25 and my boyf is 22. we’ve been a LDR since may. he doesn’t know where he’ll be next year fs yet. i graduate in may&want to move to him. he isn’t sure abt me&doesn’t know if he will be ready for that commitment. what would u do atp?

Anonymous 2w

dont move somewhere unfamiliar for a man that isnt even 100% sure he wants you

Anonymous 2w

Personally for me until its been a year and some change and I have yet the chance to live alone first I wouldn't mind not living together a little longer. However what does he mean by not sure about you? I feel like by now you should know if you could see something with a person or not...

Anonymous 1w

Break up with him. You don’t want the same things

Anonymous

#1 2w

TLDR: I understand the commitment to living together being an issue for him, I don't understand being unsure about you

Anonymous

#1 2w

We have been together since October of 2024. And I have no idea what he means by that. He just says the future is unpredictable and some parts of our relationship are “immature.” And I wouldn’t live with him, I’d live alone but just in the same place. Idk he doesn’t seem too serious bc he says he just doesn’t know if he will be ready to commit long term and won’t be for awhile.

Anonymous

OP 2w

Well that just sounds like he told you plain and clear his feelings about you...

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Anonymous

OP 2w

I apply this same theory to purchasing clothes: if its not a yes, it's a no. There are no maybe's in relationships, and its not worth uprooting your life, career & support system for someone who isn't sure. That puts you at risk for quite a bit of financial insecurity if this relationship goes to shit.