Is having a kind man just too much to ask for?š Not nice but genuinely kind-hearted and sincere. Itās like they are nowhere to be found where I am
We are out there⦠we want to meet you as much as you want to meet us⦠yet itās hard because we are always home.
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Anonymous10w
Everytime I think I found a kind hearted guy it turns out to be a ploy for sex
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Anonymous10w
Theyāre a very rare breed and they usually are the guys youād least expect or are nonexistent outside (they never leave the house)
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Anonymous10w
Ok but how do you find kind women that are actually interested in being talked to cause I donāt want to bother them if theyāre not
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Anonymous10w
Go outside, touch grass, and get to know men as people first if you want to find one
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Anonymous#110w
Same or validation of some sort.
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Anonymous#310w
Thatās what I do but cool šš»
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Anonymous#410w
Thatās real, Iāve always told myself my future husband is probably the guy that never leaves his house lol
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AnonymousOP10w
So none of the men you meet are kind then
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Anonymous#310w
Why do you think I posted this to begin with???
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AnonymousOP10w
Where are you meeting them if none of the men you meet are kind then you are choosing to associate yourself with people from the wrong places
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Anonymous#310w
Iām literally just existing in the world. Iām not dating or anything because I know my options are shit. Idk why you want to blame me for something I have no control over. I didnāt choose to be born into a world like this.
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AnonymousOP10w
Well if youāre not willing to put the work in to meet men who are nice and kind then you canāt complain. There are plenty of kind men out there perhaps you arenāt an enticing option to them
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Anonymous#310w
See? Youāre back to the blame game. Maybe, I do meet people just not romantically. And those people arenāt kind. Have you ever thought of that?
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Anonymous#310w
Like you claiming kind men donāt find me enticing just further proves that you also are not a kind individual.
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AnonymousOP10w
It is your fault. What do you think itās all menās fault and society? The only thing in common is you š
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Anonymous#310w
You are the one coming in here attacking me for asking a simple question.
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AnonymousOP10w
No one is attacking you. But the way you frame this issue like itās not of your own doing is funny like itās impossible to find a kind person
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Anonymous#310w
Well theyāre never kind to me. Just cause itās not your experience doesnāt give you the right to be an asshole
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AnonymousOP10w
So all men are mean to you every day every time then
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Anonymous#310w
Yes or their kindness is a manipulative tactic.
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AnonymousOP10w
Itās your choice continue going after the same men or change
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Anonymous#310w
And I donāt think you understand what I mean by kind. I donāt mean not being an absolute ass. I mean men with real empathy and ones that care about others feelings. Not just āhe held the door open for meā kindness.
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Anonymous#310w
Again, Iām not going after any man. Idk what you want from me
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AnonymousOP10w
Ok idk why you speak like thatās some rare trait
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AnonymousOP10w
If you donāt go after any men then how are you sitting here complaining about not finding kind men
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Anonymous#310w
Cause for me it is. Iām not trying to rage bait either. I am being genuinely so so so serious.
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Anonymous#310w
I donāt understand how this is not clicking for you. I donāt see it in just everyday people that I have to be around for work, school or anywhere online. Why should I try when I canāt even see a glimpse of it on the surface of any man that I briefly encounter?
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Anonymous#110w
wdym?
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Anonymous#510w
no fr that or work. I like to go out on weekends and lots of people talk to me but I treat everyone like a friend until I get to know you
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Anonymous#310w
To be fair, sheās asking how to avoid this.
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Anonymous#710w
Ever heard of bread crumbing? Like being kind hearted just enough to keep you around for sex