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Is having a kind man just too much to ask for?😭 Not nice but genuinely kind-hearted and sincere. It’s like they are nowhere to be found where I am
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Anonymous 10w

We are out there… we want to meet you as much as you want to meet us… yet it’s hard because we are always home.

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Anonymous 10w

Everytime I think I found a kind hearted guy it turns out to be a ploy for sex

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Anonymous 10w

They’re a very rare breed and they usually are the guys you’d least expect or are nonexistent outside (they never leave the house)

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Anonymous 10w

Ok but how do you find kind women that are actually interested in being talked to cause I don’t want to bother them if they’re not

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Anonymous 10w

Go outside, touch grass, and get to know men as people first if you want to find one

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

Same or validation of some sort.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

That’s what I do but cool šŸ‘šŸ»

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 10w

That’s real, I’ve always told myself my future husband is probably the guy that never leaves his house lol

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

So none of the men you meet are kind then

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

Why do you think I posted this to begin with???

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Where are you meeting them if none of the men you meet are kind then you are choosing to associate yourself with people from the wrong places

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

I’m literally just existing in the world. I’m not dating or anything because I know my options are shit. Idk why you want to blame me for something I have no control over. I didn’t choose to be born into a world like this.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Well if you’re not willing to put the work in to meet men who are nice and kind then you can’t complain. There are plenty of kind men out there perhaps you aren’t an enticing option to them

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

See? You’re back to the blame game. Maybe, I do meet people just not romantically. And those people aren’t kind. Have you ever thought of that?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

Like you claiming kind men don’t find me enticing just further proves that you also are not a kind individual.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

It is your fault. What do you think it’s all men’s fault and society? The only thing in common is you šŸ˜‚

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

You are the one coming in here attacking me for asking a simple question.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

No one is attacking you. But the way you frame this issue like it’s not of your own doing is funny like it’s impossible to find a kind person

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

Well they’re never kind to me. Just cause it’s not your experience doesn’t give you the right to be an asshole

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

So all men are mean to you every day every time then

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

Yes or their kindness is a manipulative tactic.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

It’s your choice continue going after the same men or change

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

And I don’t think you understand what I mean by kind. I don’t mean not being an absolute ass. I mean men with real empathy and ones that care about others feelings. Not just ā€œhe held the door open for meā€ kindness.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

Again, I’m not going after any man. Idk what you want from me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Ok idk why you speak like that’s some rare trait

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

If you don’t go after any men then how are you sitting here complaining about not finding kind men

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

Cause for me it is. I’m not trying to rage bait either. I am being genuinely so so so serious.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

I don’t understand how this is not clicking for you. I don’t see it in just everyday people that I have to be around for work, school or anywhere online. Why should I try when I can’t even see a glimpse of it on the surface of any man that I briefly encounter?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

wdym?

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 10w

no fr that or work. I like to go out on weekends and lots of people talk to me but I treat everyone like a friend until I get to know you

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

To be fair, she’s asking how to avoid this.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 10w

Ever heard of bread crumbing? Like being kind hearted just enough to keep you around for sex

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