Anonymous #5 13w

They aren’t unattainable

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Anonymous #5 13w

And plus if I exist as that person, someone else has to

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Anonymous OP 13w

But why would they choose you? The guy you want has standards too

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Anonymous #5 13w

Because I have high standards for myself so I’m allowed to seek someone on the same level as me

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Anonymous OP 13w

Reality check, most women have high standards like you. You’re probably not as special as you think you are. Most y’all don’t really understand nor care what a man wants.

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Anonymous #5 13w

I know exactly who I am and I know my worth 😭😭

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Anonymous OP 13w

Ok, keep thinking that. The high quality guys like me specifically avoid girls like you who say this stuff

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Anonymous #5 13w

You don’t know anything about me tho, you’re just making assumptions

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Anonymous OP 13w

Look, I’m giving you pro tips rn. I’m giving you valuable insight as to why you’re not finding this guy. And you’re arguing about it, the women good men are looking for wouldn’t argue about what we find attractive

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Anonymous #5 13w

Noooo I’m not trying to argue I promise and I absolutely understand what you’re saying. I’m just trying to make clear that I have high standards for myself that I attain to meet everyday, so I feel as though I’m allowed to have high standards for guys that I want

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Anonymous OP 13w

The thing is from experience and pattern recognition, y’alls standards are more unrealistic than you probably realize. From the psychology of a man, we actually find women with humble standards/demeanor more attractive

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Anonymous #5 13w

I know I came off as not so humble but I don’t go and brag about the high value of myself on my day to day basis, I tend to keep to myself, but deep down I know who I am and I deserve someone like myself and I think that’s not a crazy thing to say

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Anonymous OP 13w

The main factor in you getting this man is your looks then your actual personality lol. Holding yourself to a high standard doesn’t entitle you

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Anonymous #3 13w

I like to think I’m pretty attractive and have a good personality, you can’t really judge off of just this one post idk 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Anonymous OP 13w

As a psychologist I hear this so much, your priorities and the way you think about it is so off. I’d be glad to offer tips though if you want

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Anonymous #5 13w

Lowkey yeah slide the tips

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Anonymous OP 13w

Absolutely just shoot me a dm

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Anonymous OP 13w

Agreed. I would want a woman that puts work into her body, and actually cares. I’m glad you got standards, because that just means when you do find the right guy, it will be beautiful, I believe in you!!

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Anonymous #9 13w

Don’t ever lower standards of basic human decency. No cheating, no gaslighting, must show empathy, … are all essential standards you should never lower for anyone.

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Anonymous #9 13w

Yeah my standards really have nothing to do with height or looks 😓

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Anonymous OP 13w

Yea even more so. I would for sure keep your standards, even if it takes longer to find someone, just means that it’ll be someone you actually enjoy being with.

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Anonymous #8 13w

🫶

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