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Ask Women 17w
how do i go about asking the guy i’ve been seeing to hang out? or should i wait for him to ask? i’ll put the background of the situation in comments lol
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Anonymous 17w

Just say hey let’s something, maybe suggest a place or activity you wanna do. it’s really not much different than making plans with a friend to do something

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Anonymous 17w

ok so it’s been just about a month of us going on dates, one a week making it a total of 4 now. we had sex for the first time after the 4th date which is not something i typically do and now im kind of freaking out lol. i usually wait until im official with a guy for that kind of thing so this is very uncharted territory for me.

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Anonymous 17w

Who's been initiating the whole time?

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Anonymous 17w

Literally, just ask. He’s a human and evidently he likes you!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17w

we both have expressed that we really like each other and all that but he’s not a great texter which makes me doubt things sometimes. i feel like seeing him more often would help so i figured i would ask but im also nervous to do that LOL

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17w

him

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17w

Maybe you should this time. Ask if he's free the day you want to hang and go from there

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 17w

i just don’t want to come off as too eager haha, he’s a little older than me so i’ve been nervous about seeming immature and stuff and i worry that it’ll seem clingy to be like omg i wanna see u

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17w

just keep ur language casual, it’s not clingy to ask someone you’re seeing to hangout. what’s yalls ages ?

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 17w

he’s 25 i’m 22

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17w

Oh your fine. My bf is 24 and i just turned 21, it would be a lil crazy on his end to expect a level a higher level maturity from you when you're a few years younger

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17w

ah that’s nothin. don’t worry too much about trying to impress him with maturity. i’m sure he’ll be flattered to see you making the initiative to do something, especially if he’s usually the one to do it. doesn’t have to be a huge thing just suggest something to do

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