Ask Women on Sidechat | Do any other short girls get annoyed when they see comments online calling a guy a pedo any time he’s with short girl, or people saying “that’s a child” like why do we have to constantly infantilize women. Short doesn’t equal child.

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Ask Women 3w

Do any other short girls get annoyed when they see comments online calling a guy a pedo any time he’s with short girl, or people saying “that’s a child” like why do we have to constantly infantilize women. Short doesn’t equal child.

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Anonymous 3w

Like idk guys the joke is getting old. this is as tall we will be for the rest of our lives. We are grown women. We don’t look like a child in any other way can we please stop treating grown adults like they are some innocent baby who is too young to consent . I’m glad we’re weary of pedos ig but come on. This attitude leaks of the internet into real life too, I have a way harder time getting people to take me seriously than I should, and it’s annoying

Anonymous 3w

My mother is only 4’11 and has been dealing with this her whole life. Not just by random people but often by people she already knows. People are just way too comfy commenting on other people’s bodies

Anonymous 3w

At least you’re not a short guy

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Anonymous 3w

Oh absolutely. I’m shorter and I have a very young face. I’ve constantly been mistaken as younger, and been hit on by freshmen when I was a senior. Even now, I have to wonder if compliments about me using the word “cute”is because I look childish or because of what I actually look like. Short women are SO infantilized it’s ridiculous.

Anonymous 3w

as a woman who is 4’ 10” my greatest fear is that the men who hit on me are just fetishizing my height. when i was on dating apps i had so many guys be like “omg 4’ 10” 😩”. and that was weird to me. and i do get the “omg u look like a kid” “ur so small” “ur so tiny and cute” and i’m like 🧍‍♀️i’m a full grown woman guys.

Anonymous 3w

I’m 5’1 and my bf is 6’3. I am not dating him because of his height but instead because he cares so deeply for me and would sacrifice the world just to make me happy. People will make comments about us all the time. We will be walking around the mall and have people stare at us and whisper as we walk past. I’ll have people ask me at least once every other month if he is hurting me. People think he groomed me even tho I am older than him. I have been asked before at bars if I need help from him

Anonymous 3w

I’m a trans man but yes I hate it so much. I’m short and baby faced. Some people seem to think that means I don’t deserve love and that’s ridiculous

Anonymous 3w

Thought I was only one

Anonymous 3w

I’m 5’4 and love a 6’2 + man. I read a lot of fantasy 😂

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Anonymous

#1 3w

Ok?

Anonymous

#1 3w

someone’s got a bachelors degree in climbing

Anonymous

#2 3w

Again this comment is immensely irrelevant to the post. I’m sorry dude I agree the way people treat short guys is disgusting. I don’t envy you. But also women deal with a rly frustrating thing being ibfantilized and it would be nice if you could, as a man on ask women, let us talk about that without making it about men

Anonymous

#1 3w

Genuine question. Why is your cut off 6’2? Like as a short woman, once they get past like 6’0 or so don’t they all look the same, I can’t differentiate between a guy who’s 6’ or a guy who’s 6’3, they’re all just way up there

Anonymous

OP 3w

so correct me if I’m wrong, you’re saying that 3 inches is a negligible difference

Anonymous

#3 3w

2 inches if we’re talking about 6’ to 6’2 but yeah if you’re already rly tall. Like I’m 5’2 and I have to look UP to see them already at that point I can’t rly tell, all I know is they are towering above me. Basically if I’m looking up and seeing nostrils idk what difference it makes

Anonymous

#4 3w

No fr. Customer service is so 💀 tell me why I had to argue with a man to let me into a place for people 18+ so I could use the fucking bathroom on my 20th birthday. He didn’t even ask to see my id he just refused to let me in.

Anonymous

#3 3w

I have no shame 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Anonymous

#1 3w

a girl who does it for the love of the game, I love to see it

Anonymous

OP 3w

it’s a foot really that big of a height difference to you guys?

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Anonymous

#3 3w

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Anonymous

#3 3w

Yeah definitely

Anonymous

#6 3w

Yeah like “anyone who would like you is a pedophile” I’m sorry what am I supposed to do not date. Well whatever you absolutely deserve love obviously people are so weird for no reason

Anonymous

OP 3w

you’re also only 5’2 though there are women that are 4’9 idk what they mean for you you’re average size i think

Anonymous

#3 3w

I’m not average. The fact shorter people exist does not make me not short lol. American average is 5’4 but in my group I’m the shortest of anyone I know by far

Anonymous

OP 3w

but it’s still not as bad as what people are making you out to be, being a short woman is cute, guys like that so don’t worry about the height

Anonymous

#3 3w

I’m not worried about my height. Dude did you read my post. I’m not complaining about what guys like, I’m complaining about how people infantilize short women and acting like their relationships are creepy

Anonymous

OP 3w

but that’s only ever happens for women under 4’10 in my experience

Anonymous

#3 3w

And as a girl who is not under 4’10 I’m saying that it has happened to me so…

Anonymous

#3 3w

How tall are you?

Anonymous

OP 3w

yeah that’s just weird maybe just a one off thing, there are a lot of women who are 5’0 and taller all with really tall guys, I’ve never heard anything like what you’re saying right now

Anonymous

OP 3w

i’m 6’3, my exes have all been between 5’0 and 5’4 and I’ve never heard what you’re saying in my life

Anonymous

#3 3w

Ok soooo you’re a man and tall. Why are you on here trying to talk over my experiences

Anonymous

#3 3w

It’s not a one off thing it’s something I see often. People can get weird irl about my height and online I’ve seen people be really weird about many relationships between guys who are above 6’ and girls anywhere from 5’4-4’whatever

Anonymous

OP 3w

has this been like multiple experiences or something? Because if so, then stop being around the people you’re around because I can assure you I have probably been alive longer than you and I have never heard anything of what you’re saying for any women 5’0 and up

Anonymous

#3 3w

Yes it has. And I’ll admit it’s 80% an online thing. But I’ve also experienced some weird stuff irl. It’s from strangers so not really something I can control in terms of people I’m around. Either way this is a post I made as a woman for other women with my experiences. Why are you as a man commenting as also dismissing it. This post was not for you

Anonymous

OP 3w

i’m not even the one downvoting you, i’m just telling you that I don’t have the same experience as you because none of this has ever happened to me or to anyone that I know, so I don’t really understand why you’re so upset, like you’re 5’2, there’s loads of women that are that height and some even shorter that have never experienced that, like chill i’ll leave your comments section but stop arguing when other people want to share their experiences as well

Anonymous

#3 3w

Yes of course you don’t have the same experiences so why are you commenting 😭 that’s why I’m upset. I’m tired of guys coming on to questions I’m posing to women talking about irrelevant and unrelated things. Thank you for leaving. I’m sorry I don’t mean to be rude, I’m just tired of the way men behave online in women’s spaces

Anonymous

OP 3w

I literally said I was 5’4 and I like a taller man by my side and you got mad. Stick to who you’re actually mad at because I’m a woman, honey and you’re saying because he is a man, he shouldn’t be giving his experience. You only put gasoline on the fire when you let others tell you what “normal” looks like.

Anonymous

#1 3w

I didn’t get mad? Where on earth did I get mad?

Anonymous

#1 3w

I’m also not talking to you I’m talking to 3

Anonymous

OP 3w

I know you’re talking to #3 but I’m speaking to you now because you literally bulldozed over someone who has the perspective of being able to see it second hand and he said he didn’t encounter it. Then you begin to tell him that it’s 80% online, well no shit it’s online. The people who post online would call you a name from a car window but won’t jump out the car. Don’t go after someone else after you just said that is something you have dealt with.

Anonymous

#1 3w

Yeah the whole post mentions it’s online. I didn’t bulldoze him I just expressed it’s kinda annoying for a guy to come on and be like “I’ve never seen what you’re talking about” when I made a post for other women who have

Anonymous

OP 3w

But why is that annoying? He isn’t doing anything wrong. He pointed out that it’s something that has not happened to the women he has been with. Also, your post literally says “calling a guy a pedo anytime he is with a short girl…”. Then a male comments who is 6’3, saying he has had girlfriends who were 5’ and has not had this issue. So you’re annoyed that this hasn’t been an issue for all women or mad that god forbid a MALE is giving an experience on the issue you’re presenting.

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Anonymous

#7 3w

see and this is why i said 4’10 and under because this does happen to them

Anonymous

#3 3w

Genuinely the reason you haven’t heard people say these things is because they are scared to say them to you because you are a tall man but the woman you’ve dated have definitely heard this from other people before

Anonymous

strawberry_hair 3w

It’s so uncomfortable. I’m sorry you feel like that :(. Also freshman hitting on a senior is crazy

Anonymous

#8 3w

I’m a similar height difference with my bf. And same, height was bottom of the consideration. I’m also older than him, which always makes the situation feel so weird, tbf I’ve also had someone online call me a pedo when they found out out she difference (two years) people love throwing that word around. Also what kind of comments do you get? Cause your situation sounds wild

Anonymous

#3 3w

Yeah it happens to them. And also girls over 4’10 as you can see from other comments

Anonymous

#1 3w

He wasn’t just pointing out it hasn’t happened to women he’s been with it was

Anonymous

OP 3w

That he was making it sound like it couldn’t happen to me bc I wasn’t short enough

Anonymous

OP 3w

Someone who speaks of their experience doesn’t deny yours.

Anonymous

#1 3w

No but saying this in direct response to me trying to talk kinda does

Anonymous

OP 3w

He literally says in HIS experience. Are you even reading?

Anonymous

#1 3w

Ok let me break this down for you. I made my post. He responded that it wasn’t as bad as what people were making it out to be, and that I was average height, so if I was experiencing this it was probably a one of thing. Which was frustrating because that’s not what my experience has been and idk why as a man he needed to come in here and tell me I wasn’t short and was probably not experiencing this often when my post is about being short and experiencing that

Anonymous

#1 3w

Girlie why are we wasting our time arguing over a man taking up comment space in as women. It’s not worth either of our time

Anonymous

OP 3w

Damn girl, you can’t keep to one argument so you pull everything you can to add weight to what you’re saying. I’ve asked direct questions and you disregard them and brought in new material that wasn’t being discussed. You posted what he said, back to me, after he clearly had said it was his experience more than a few times. Now you’re saying I’m wasting my time because I’m calling you out for lashing out on someone just because he is a man in the comment section. Keep to a point.

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Anonymous

OP 3w

Oh it’s okay, I found a really great guy (now) but I dealt with a lot of weirdness around my age. A 12 year old thought I was like 15 when I was 19. So it makes things a lot harder. I’ve even struggled with people taking me seriously.