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Better to break up with someone when you arrive for a date or after a date? I don’t wanna do it over text and we don’t see eachother in person hardly at all besides a few dates
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Anonymous 4w

honestly i’d rather get it texted it to me, i wouldn’t wanna be excited for the date, get ready, then get told in the beginning i’m getting broken up with or after bc it’d be like we just had a good time and this whole time u were thinking this😭 r u guys close? if it’s only been a few dates and you’re not that close just text them. if you are close though, i would do it depending on the date activity and i would kinda hint it before

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Anonymous 4w

During the date

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Anonymous 4w

^especially if the date involved them getting tickets for something. I’m paying for my ticket and would pay for hers too, just don’t know what’s less rude here

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Anonymous 4w

the sooner you do it the better imo. the worst breakup i ever had was one where we had an amazing planned date together and then that same night he broke up with him. i 100% would’ve preferred to break up before it

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Anonymous 4w

Have a lwk date where you’re just hanging out and do it before

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Like pull up for the date then be like we gotta talk?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Hmm. Before the date if it involves tickets

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 4w

It’s tough, we’ve been friends for a long time but just started going on dates to see if something is there. It’s been one date and a month or so of texting/calls (we live far apart) and I just don’t think I’m feelin it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

But she also mentioned how she hates people that do that stuff over text so idk

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

ohhh that makes a lot more sense. i thought it was some random tinder person or something😭 if u live far apart though she may feel like she went all that way for no reason (just for u to break things off)

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 4w

I’m the one driving back to my hometown, she lives there and all our friends were gonna hang out anyway

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

oooo gotcha that makes more sense, idk how your dates go but maybe do something fun together (not romantic date, something friends do) and afterwards when it gets to like “deep talking time” (😭 idk if ykwim i feel like during dates there’s always like a cool off time to talk about stuff yk) then see how the conversation goes at first and if naturally gets brought up, if not, i would just be like i really like you as a person and i had a great time but i think we’re better off as friends

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

r the tickets already paid for? ah that’s hard, if u wanna give “i still care about you as a person, let’s have one last good date” and if u wanna break it off after. id pay for them. if u wanna tell her before, maybe say like wanna still go to blah blah as friends?

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