Anonymous #3 17h

Honestly I just really don’t want to sleep with someone who I feel like doesn’t give a fuck about me or seems like they just want to get a nut off. My standards are pretty much we gotta be together for me to have sex and I have to pretty much alr love you. In terms of of other sexual stuff. I just gotta like you. I think I rlly didn’t like this person fr I just thought they could be good in bed and they were NOT😭😭😭😭😭😭

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Anonymous #3 17h

Also ur totally good, how long did u wait and do u think it was worth it

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Anonymous #1 17h

I doubt it too tbh. I mean I have high ass standards for men I’m dating. If I just want an experience w you I just want you to be clean your space to be clean, you should probably buy me food or at least take me out. make me comfortable etc. Not pressure me, care about whether I’m having a good time. Try to make me finish or pay attention to my pleasure and then cuddle afterwards/after-care . I don’t think that’s a lot but lmk 😭some of it seems impossible to even find

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Anonymous OP 1h

I waited until I was 20. I then slept with the guy within 3 weeks of talking and we weren't even officially dating. Part of me wishes I waited a tad longer because I wa a nervous about it but now we've been dating 4 years so it worked out. I totally get wanting to find someone that respects and cares about you and I think that's achievable. Waiting until you're in love is admirable but also maybe not as realistic just because that can take a while to develop. Unfortunately young people these days

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Anonymous #3 1h

Sorta assume sex is on the table because casual sex is so common. I don't think casual srx is a bad thing it just wasn't for me. I think I also got lucky that my situation worked out.

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