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Why do men always think I’m flirting with them or interested when I’m literally just trying to be nice and an active listener.
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Anonymous 20h

Active listening is number 1 sign of flirting (apparently)

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Anonymous 18h

Hi OP, I am a guy and at the opposite end. Any woman that is nice will be seen as nice. It takes me a lot for me to consider if there is flirting. Some who do flirt won’t be noticed if it’s very low key. Better that way than being wrong :)

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Anonymous 17h

From my understanding, a lot of guys don’t usually get complimented or have people that are genuinely nice to them, so when it does happen, then they perceive it as flirting. I just assume that the girl is just being nice and go about my day, but that’s not the case for most.

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Anonymous 17h

I know that when a girl is nice she’s nice. I think it’s he thing is that eye contact and the level of her sharing details with me and bantering is what gets me feeling like “oh she’s into me” and “we’re flirting.” But if there isn’t banter while she’s sharing info about herself it’s hard to tell for me.

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Anonymous 20h

because men only put effort into conversations with women when they're trying to sleep with them, so they assume it's the same in reverse

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

So disingenuous

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 20h

Direct eye contact is pretty rare so there’s that too

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 20h

Yea I have a hard time listening when people are talking if I don’t look directly at them/make eye contact.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

I’m the same way, I usually cope by taking a while to respond,

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 15h

I’m super sarcastic and I make a lot of jokes all the time so maybe I just need to be more lowkey.. 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 13h

The other way being you potentially guess incorrectly and everyone moves on after. How is that bad

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 13h

Femcel logic

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 13h

certain guys are probs like this but definitely not majority

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