Ask Women on Sidechat | My boyfriend has expressed to me many times that he likes putting it all down my throat and holding my head/taking control etc. I like it too, but a close friend of mine told me that was abuse?? Because he initiates? I love making him happy, but thoughts?

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Ask Women 18w

My boyfriend has expressed to me many times that he likes putting it all down my throat and holding my head/taking control etc. I like it too, but a close friend of mine told me that was abuse?? Because he initiates? I love making him happy, but thoughts?

Anonymous 18w

If you’re consenting with it, it’s all good. If you don’t want that to happen and he still does it, that’s abuse

Anonymous 18w

If it’s consent and you guys got safe words/things to use when it becomes too much then no, not abuse. If you’re doing it just to please him, that’s a little iffy but still not abuse

Anonymous 18w

The only way for it to be abuse is if he actually hurting you and didn’t say sorry after the fact. However what you are describing is just normal rough s*x, so in that case your friend is wrong

Anonymous 18w

What’s the safe move since you can’t talk

Anonymous 18w

As long as you both consent it’s fine, but personally if someone wanted to do that to me I would find that very questionable

Anonymous 18w

Not abuse, unless you told him no. Are you happy seeing how it makes him feel?

Anonymous

#2 18w

Yeah!

Anonymous

#5 18w

It's mostly to make him happy, but I also love the way he simultaneously looses control mentally and takes control physically

Anonymous

#2 18w

Sometimes the abused does not say no, and that can still be abuse. It’s not the absence of a verbal no, it’s the presence of a clear yes