Anonymous aquacyclone 2w

Yeah that checks out. What’s worse is it’s never the cute fun guys it’s always the weird awkward ones

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Anonymous OP 2w

Eh lol you’ll get both tbh

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Anonymous #3 2w

Nothing inherently! But it can get exhausted when you feel like everyone in the room is eyeing you up, watching your every move, has some ulterior motive behind being nice, is going to approach you, etc etc etc etc. especially if you already don’t feel the most welcome!

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Anonymous aquacyclone 2w

^^^ big difference between something developing organically and dudes who immediately pursue you without you giving any sign that you’re interested. Doubly so if they’re significantly older

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Anonymous OP 2w

So they have to wait for you to give permission to persue you?

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Anonymous aquacyclone 2w

Why would you go somewhere you feel unwelcome

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Anonymous #3 2w

Maybe it didn’t feel unwelcome until a man who was twice our age started harassing us.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

Yeah that sounds pretty typical unfortunately. I hate how these men ruin these spaces for us. And then it ends up making the space worse for the men who aren’t terrible too

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Anonymous OP 2w

It’s not just men either! We are teaching such young kids that it’s weird for girls to play games. Don’t get me wrong it’s better now but why did I get made fun of at school for being into Pokémon as a girl??? By excluding anyone the entire space is less welcoming.

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Anonymous #3 2w

Because often times (1) you don’t know the vibes before you go and (2) if you’re a woman in these spaces there’s nowhere else to go. like OP said she’s into board games - while I’m sure there’s board game clubs for women they may not be very common & therefore she’s going to run into the above issues in other clubs. Also I’m STEM, if we have a group project I have to participate no matter the vibes

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

Incorrect the commenter said “especially when you ALREADY feel welcome” which is why I ask

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Anonymous aquacyclone 2w

The first thing applies to any group regardless of being a woman. Also second part is fluff, like if you feel unwelcome then don’t go?

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

I got made fun of for liking pokemon as a guy it had nothing to do with your gender lmao

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Anonymous #3 2w

That’s certainly an option, but it kind of sucks when you can’t participate in something you’re interested in bc of the above issues. That’s more *generally* likely to happen to women interested in STEM or nerdy things than men interested in STEM or nerdy things.

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Anonymous #3 2w

It was very popular at my school and I was explicitly told “girls can’t play Pokémon” so it was my gender

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Anonymous #3 2w

You don’t seem to understand that no space is actually welcoming for a woman. We are allowed to have hobbies. I am allowed to go into a space and expect to be treated well. And I should not be perved over by a man twice my age. I should not be made fun of for being the DM and being told my campaign is too soft because I’m a woman. These are things that aren’t acceptable in any community.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

This is why it’s a bad idea to say “it wasn’t because of your gender” when you have no idea what happened, by the way. I’d really recommend you not do that in the future.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

I agree, but if it’s that unwelcoming and bad then don’t go? Evidently it can’t be that bad and the enjoyment you get outweighs it otherwise you wouldn’t go

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Anonymous aquacyclone 2w

You want me to believe someone was faced gender discrimination for liking the highest grossing media franchise in the world? You do realize that’s more ridiculous than someone saying they got made fun of liking Disney because they are a girl

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Anonymous #3 2w

Yes, when a woman tells you they have experienced sexism I want you to believe them. I don’t think that’s unreasonable?

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Anonymous #3 2w

“Don’t participate in the things you enjoy and find interesting because men make it uncomfortable and less enjoyable for women and there’s just nothing we can do about that”

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Anonymous aquacyclone 2w

I don’t blindly believe claims because someone is a woman lol

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Anonymous OP 2w

Correct if it’s sooo bad then don’t put yourself there. But evidently it isn’t that bad since you keep going

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Anonymous #3 2w

Seems like you’re not denying the problem anymore but instead saying nothing can be done about it & we should suck it up. You’re the exact reason we need more spaces for women. I really hope you improve for the sake of the women in your life.

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Anonymous #3 2w

It’s almost like this was a near decade ago. Despite how popular games are they have always had a large male audience. Were those kids being jerks for no good reason? Yeah. But the point still stands that I have experienced sexism in the gaming community from the age of 8 up until now. Or should I go into detail of men telling me I smell nice when I went into gaming stores? Or being asked if I was lost?

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Anonymous #3 2w

So what I’m seeing is that you agree it’s a problem and you think we should keep gamers separate? Okay! Have fun at your conventions where not a single person bathes.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

I don’t go to conventions. The reality is if it’s so bad you wouldn’t go or you’d make your own place. That’s exactly what black civil rights activists did lmao

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

You are complaining about men perusing you with romantic intent in predominantly male spaces like it’s a shocker lmao. I think it’s ironic too because women online often give men the advice of meeting women in shared hobby groups and here you all complain about such occurring

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Anonymous #3 2w

We are talking about men creeping on us. Not “Hi how are you!” No I’m talking sniffing us, following us home, being sexist and stuff. So I guess you’d like it if a random man did that to you then?

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

Proving my point further if it’s stuff like that then why do you willingly continue to go places you know that will occur

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Oh so they have to go? 💀 the only dumbasses here are the people acting like you have to go at all

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