Anonymous #1 4w

It sucks like I love her as a friend and all she ever does is hang out with her boyfriend and invite me along 💔

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Anonymous #3 4w

I talked to her about it but she just wants me to be “happy for her” which I am but this is the third guy I’ve had to be a third wheel with in the 2 years we’ve been friends and she hasn’t gone more than a month being single

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Anonymous OP 4w

Is it like she’s not hanging out with you or she only wants to hang out with u and the guy

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Anonymous #3 4w

She’s my roommate so he’s always at our apartment and if they go out somewhere she always invites me to come

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Anonymous #3 4w

We only “hang out” one on one at home when he’s not here

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Anonymous OP 4w

Maybe she thinks that the hanging out at home is enough to sustain your friendship. How does she react to 1:1 invites?

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Anonymous #3 4w

She’s fine with it or “can **** come” like ☹️😫

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Anonymous OP 4w

Eh yeah tell her that sometimes you want girl time. It’s hard cause tbh with my guy I just enjoy having all the people I love together, maybe she wants you guys to be closer. But all you can really do is gently let her know that you want more alone time with her, and maybe try making some other friends. Change is tough I feel you, but for a lot of people, their partner is their main priority in terms of time spent and relationship building

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Anonymous #3 4w

That’s fine and respectable it’s just so frustrating - for some context - going into this semester at school she was so excited for us both to be single for this term and then she folds after one guy asks for her snap. Like I’m not trying to blame her but sometimes it just hurts and I wanted it to just be us for a bit. I’m not trying to be a possessive pos but 😫

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Anonymous OP 4w

One of the suckiest things for me in college was just figuring out how to let go of friends who didn’t have the same love for me as I had for them. I get really attached to my friends and love spending time with them but that is unfortunately not how everyone in this world operates :( I feel u girl and it sucks, but maybe this is a chance to branch out and try to get involved with some new hobbies or people or explore some other aspect of your life. And some people feel really pressured to 1\2

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Anonymous #3 4w

Be in a relationship, whether for validation or sex or some other social reason. Don’t let this impact your perception or sense of self, it’s just one of those things that happens a lot in life. Friendship is temporal and always changing, and all you can control is what you give

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Anonymous #3 4w

Tysm for your input it means a lot to me🫶🫶

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