
I haven’t been in this type of situation. But I’d say sit down and tell her you want to say something without her getting mad. Try to keep a flat tone and if she starts to get angry then keep some distance or stay calm. Im sorry that you have to do this but I’m glad that you’re still here to say it.
She obviously has a right to her feelings but the implication that its ok for her to put herself over op and take those feelings out on op is not ok at all especially given the circumstance. They need care and help not someone whos gonna selfishly scream at them. Wishing op the best