Anonymous OP 2w

It just made me hate myself so much and I won’t drink more than even a seltzer now, even that I hate doing. I’m now the friend that never wants to go out over the weekends and I’m losing my friends from it. I just can’t get over the fact that I ruined it bc of alcohol and I honestly don’t wanna drink ever again…what should I do?

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Anonymous OP 2w

I had something very similar but ended up using it a wake up call and now I am with someone who has never made me happier

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Anonymous OP 2w

Just know your limits? I totally get it from his pov bc someone who can get wasted and blacked out and belligerent is not someone I can trust (not saying that you were that drunk, but I’ve had really bad experiences with people who get that drunk and I don’t want to do that again)

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Anonymous #3 2w

You're not being sober for a reason that benefits anyone, you're trying to beat yourself up over an assumption on a mistake you made getting too drunk.

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Anonymous #2 2w

Well yea, I think I’ve done a good job at knowing my limits after that. But my point of the post is that it’s psychologically just messed with me. Like even if that’s not the only reason he ended things I know it was part of it and my mind subconsciously is linking that to how hurt I felt. And idk what to do bc I’ve just been listening to my body like if the thought of drinking alcohol scares me, I just don’t do it anymore, but I’m losing friends now and idk how to reverse this thinking

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Anonymous #3 2w

I know, I just don’t know how to reverse how this has changed my thinking and mindset. It like completely altered my brain chemistry (this happened months ago) and I haven’t felt comfortable drinking since. I would completely have quit by now if my friends didn’t force me to go out with them sometimes. Idk what to do?

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Anonymous #3 2w

Idk if it even can be reversed or if I just realized drinking alcohol at all isn’t worth ruining anything over I’m just hyper aware about it now

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Anonymous #2 2w

Like I think the experience hurt me so badly when he ended things with me that it literally altered my brain chemistry and completely turned me away from alcohol. And Ik that’s not necessarily a bad thing but

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Anonymous #1 2w

Yes I feel like I used it as a wake up call as well but idk if I’m just taking it too far now and ruining my social life or any chance of meeting anyone. He made me feel so badly about myself when he ended things I just wasn’t willing to ever get drunk and feel like that again. But now I feel like I’m wasting my senior yr of college and losing friends

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Anonymous #2 2w

I think it also just upset me so much because it was a mistake and I just wanted communication. I wish he tried to talk to me about it being a problem before just ending things. So it’s like I’m not willing to get drunk again and potentially ruin anything else

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Anonymous OP 2w

I think this is deeper than alcohol to be honest if one man that you weren't official with could cause you to spiral this much.

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Anonymous OP 2w

You can definitely be more aware about alcohol and choose to be sober! But do it to benefit yourself, not punish

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Anonymous #3 2w

But I think he already had his qualms about you so even if you didn't drink there was something else that he just didn't like

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Anonymous #3 2w

Yea defenitely I agree with that, and it’s not necessarily about him that set me off, I think what caused me to spiral so much was that I already felt like I ruin things or self sabatoge so this was kind of the cherry on top and really set me off that I felt like I caused it to end. And i do agree that he prbably already had his doubts or other reasons and maybe just used this as a final reason to end it

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Anonymous #4 2w

The lesson is from it. Sometimes the lesson can be so small, but there’s always something there. Maybe that guy had some other reasons to dump you, but subconsciously he said enough with the drinking. That’s his personal preference. Alcohol is such a normal thing, along with addiction, maybe he just wanted a reason to bounce. You’ll never really know, and it sucks but it’s how to cookie crumbled

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Anonymous #4 2w

Ignore senior year. Idk where I got tha from…

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