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How dramatic is it reasonable to be on the two year anniversary of your father’s death. Like is it unreasonable to wish your friends would check in on you or that ur bf would offer to spend the day with you.

Anonymous 2w

Grief has no reason or logic to it, you are allowed to want support from your loved ones on a death anniversary ESPECIALLY for the death of a parent that didn’t happen that long ago. I still get sad about my friend who died almost 10 years ago in a car crash. Not unreasonable at all. Also sending love and support 🫶🏼 take care of yourself

Anonymous 2w

Oh hunny. I’m so sorry. It’s in no way unreasonable to want comfort of company a the ones you love around you on a hard day. It’s extremely healthy too knowing you need and want to surround yourself with your loved ones instead of just locking yourself away

Anonymous 2w

hey hun. i was gonna dm you but it’s off that’s okay! no one who hasn’t gone through something like that is going to reach out to you. if they havnt felt that pain and grief on they’re own they wont reach out to you because they cant comprehend it. grief affects all of us in very many different ways. you will get a call. you will get a text. even if it’s from family it still counts… i’m so sorry you lost your father honey, i totally understand what it feels like to loose someone so close to you

Anonymous 2w

No, real friends would plan that stuff without you having to ask.

🤙

Anonymous 1w

2.6 oz tears max

Anonymous

#1 2w

Ty. I feel like no one in my life ever rly asked how I am, even back when it happened so it makes me feel like I’m being too dramatic. Sorry for your loss as well btw

Anonymous

#2 2w

especially a parent. i lost my mother last august after never having delt with something like that in my life. i understand what you feel and its okay to feel that. you need to in order to be okay. it will hit you at random times like it does me. all you can do is remember him in great light and honor his memory. if you need someone you talk to feel free to dm me <3

Anonymous

#3 2w

Thanks

Anonymous

#2 2w

Ty. I didn’t hear from anyone and it’s pretty hard on me rn.

Anonymous

#2 2w

Sorry for your loss btw

Anonymous

OP 2w

I would want that

Anonymous

#5 2w

You deserve all the love in the world, I’m so sorry you are in this position

Anonymous

#5 2w

My own bf didn’t even ask how I was. Now I’m in the doghouse bc I had a breakdown and lost it and yelled some rly terrible shit at him. Now I feel horrible. I just don’t know what to do with all the anger I feel over the fact NO ONE checked on me

Anonymous

OP 2w

Tbh that’s on him, this is the anniversary of the worst day of your life, and for him not to have done anything is an affront to the relationship. Your anger is 100% justified

Anonymous

#5 2w

It wasn’t though I said some rly awful stuff to him. He was giving me a hard time at dinner for being negative the whole meal and I just.. lost it Told him he was just another disgusting white boy who had never been through anything and told him to go to hell and that positive people like him were a blight on the world….

Anonymous

OP 2w

I don’t get why all week long he’s been complaining about me being negative. Like he knows exactly what week it is he’s been with me for years

Anonymous

OP 2w

I love you 😭 And I think this can be rectified with a simple apology tbh, if you tell him you were caught up in feelings about your dad and that you didn’t really feel that way about him, I don’t think he’d have any choice to forgive you. The way I see it, you can’t expect anything but an explosion when you force someone to stuff their pain like that. What’s the point of having relationships if they aren’t going to show up for you when it really matters?

Anonymous

#5 2w

I did apologize and he told me he gets how I was feeling but he can’t be an emotional punching bag, which is fair. So he’s still upset with me

Anonymous

OP 2w

Tbh I’d break up with him, but I’m overly quick to leave and imagine you don’t want to throw away all the time you’ve spent together. I think he has no right to be upset with you after neglecting your needs during the worst week of your year, and being overly critical on top of that. If I were your friend I’d give him a verbal lashing

Anonymous

#5 2w

I mean to be fair the way I treated him was rly abusive. I’m a big “we don’t tell and scream at people” believer. He’s usually a rly good man idk what was up his ass this week of all weeks. I did consider it though lowkey. I’m not much for tolerating bullshit. He’s just usually a lot better than whatever the fuck was up this week

Anonymous

OP 2w

Lowkey idk what is up with all my friends. They are usually rly loving supportive people but when it comes to my dad’s death it’s just total radio silence. I had to completely cut off one of them bc she got so hyper critical and mean to me directly after his death i couldn’t take it

Anonymous

#5 2w

I mean, not everyone connects painful events to the date they occurred on. Sometimes it’s a location or something else related. Sometimes people want to be checked on, sometimes they want to be alone. Friends who care might express that care differently if there’s no communication on how you want it expressed.