i don’t believe it is the majority of men that are rapists/ horrible ppl. but nearly every single woman i know has been a victim of sexual assault/ abuse or harassment. there are abusers and rapists among us, and we don’t always know it. i hope it is the case that no one you’re close to is like that, but it could be that they are and you just wouldn’t know

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The fact is, every woman I know has a story about being raped or harassed in someway. But most men can’t say they know a lot of men who do these things. That does not mean our accounts are incorrect. You don’t know if they’re like that as a man because they act differently around men than they do women. There are moments that even men I feel safe and comfortable around say things that are questionable. And it’s because they are raised that way.

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My rapist I never even knew him never talked to. He found me. I was walking on campus in broad daylight.

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The majority of men are not rapists. But the majority of men are willing to be complicit in rape culture, so it’s hard to trust any men. I have seen the sweetest most nonthreatening men I know turn a blind eye to their friend’s predatory behavior either out of obliviousness or a desire to avoid conflict. It’s not enough for a man to just not be a rapist, he has to also be actively willing to recognize and confront harm to women when it’s happening, or he IS a part of the problem.

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