Anonymous #1 4w

Confront him and pressure her for more info. Huge huge huge claim Imo, she should willingly give info so it doesn’t happen to you

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Anonymous OP 4w

Unfortunately you can’t trust that you never thought he was capable of it. I never thought my childhood bestfriend was capable of it but alas😭 especially when he’s in the presents of other men who likely influenced him into behaving that way

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Anonymous #4 4w

Sabotage or warning?

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Anonymous #3 4w

Sabotage since she doesn’t want to elaborate.

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Anonymous #5 4w

Why would you think that? A group of men threatening to rape you would be traumatizing. Although I also wonder why she wouldn’t elaborate and give more context to further help op

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Anonymous #3 4w

Because she doesn’t elaborate. When I tried warning the girlfriends of the guys who raped me I came with receipts and was ready to talk because I genuinely wanted to help them avoid what happened to me.

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Anonymous #5 4w

Ok but if I wanted to warn a girl about the guy who raped me, I don’t have “receipts”, so would you assume I’m lying and it’s sabotage?

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Anonymous OP 4w

Probably lying has vendetta against dude

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Anonymous #3 4w

Idk, would you elaborate? Dates, times, places, what he was wearing, how yall met, what your first impression of him was, did yall text, etc

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Anonymous #5 4w

And if I told you I don’t remember the date, I don’t remember what he was wearing, I don’t know where we were, we met online, and I have no history of our messages or conversations because it was 6 years ago, would you assume I’m lying?

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Anonymous #5 4w

Genuinely just curious now bc I’ll feel some type of way if you wouldn’t believe me bc I don’t remember exact details, I mean in my particular situation drugs were involved so how could I remember😭 along with the fact that I was 16 and stupid so didn’t tell anyone

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Anonymous #3 4w

I’d be skeptical but I’d take what you said into consideration. My experience happened when I was 13, he was 16, the first time it happened was September 18 at 7:30pm. I still remember how his breath smelled when he told me my breasts were squishy and when he pulled me onto the ground and pushed his fingers into me. It’s those memories that I call receipts. id be watching the way your face moved, the tones you used in your voice, your body language as you told the story. I’d ask for more info

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Anonymous #5 4w

September 18 the day that I went camping on the school wide field trip, 7:30 because it was right before roasting marshmallows at 8-9.

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Anonymous #5 4w

I was under the influence of drugs and I was completely disassociating the entire time. But I did say no multiple times before that. I’m not even clear on what happened, as much as I wish I was. And it hurts that my experience wouldn’t be trusted bc I don’t have a clear memory of the assault

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Anonymous #5 4w

We have very different experiences, I didn’t even really think about what happened until months down the line bc I was just completely shutting all those feelings out. But if affected me nonetheless

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Anonymous #3 4w

We have different experiences but even with the details I had the girls didn’t believe me and then came to me months later saying I was right and they’d had your experience with the guy. What matters is you tried

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Anonymous #3 4w

I’d believe any response to a question that isn’t 100% avoidance and seems like a genuine warning

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