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Bf of 6 months wants to meet my parents. Both are strict immigrant parents and one is an alcoholic in recovery. I kinda don’t want him to meet them rn in their state but he’s so persistent. How do I tell him I don’t want to introduce him to them rn
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Anonymous 11w

I told him the situation with my mom and he still wants to meet them. He knows my address and said he’s just pulling up tmm since it’s a holiday and he knows they aren’t working

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

not taking no for an answer is a huge red flag. if he doesn't respect your wishes and boundaries on this, when will he?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

Bigger red flag she expects him to tolerate this indefinitely

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11w

she said "rn" not indefinitely, but thank you for your injecting your misogyny into the situation

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 11w

“Misogyny”

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

Well it depends on what you’re scared of. Are you scared of your parents doing something awful? Or are you scared of him not liking them and/or hating your family as a result? If it’s the former, then emphasize that it’s for his and your safety. If it’s the latter, then you really should just let him have the chance to experience your family, and form his own opinions. You can’t shield it from him forever, and he should see the good, the bad, and the ugly if he thinks he’s up for it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 11w

Ngl I’m thinking of cutting off my family and with him wanting to meet them, I feel it’ll be more difficult to cut them off. Also I’ve had issues where old exes meet my parents then broke up with me. Not saying we’ll break up, but I want to introduce him at a one year mark or when things are more serious. Shit he just told me he loved me for the first time a month ago. Anytime kids or marriage is mentioned, he changes the convo

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

I feel 6 months is too early to meet parents but maybe that’s just me. I just want to focus on us then have him meet my parents when they’re in a better state and when he’s open and honest about a future of us

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

He’s not respecting your boundaries. You said you’re not ready. He should not be going against that.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

Jesus, this is why you will always be alone

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 11w

I’m ngl 6 months is pretty standard. Not for you to introduce him as the love of your life or anything, but pretty standard getting to know the family. Also, I don’t understand how your bf meeting them would make it harder to cut them off

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