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As a guy, is it bad that I have high standards? None of my standards are things that I don’t meet myself, but I’ve noticed that I very rarely find people I’m romantically interested in
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Anonymous 22h

Having standards is understandable and a good thing. You should have standards. As long as you aren’t being rude to people just because they don’t meet those standards you should be fine

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Anonymous 22h

not at all! i’m the same way :) i think our rare interest in someone makes it extra special. a lot of people just settle or compromise for the sake of companionship and not necessarily compatibility! for me, intellectual, humor, and ambition are the important factors i look for in a partner and it takes time for me to find and develop attraction.

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Anonymous 18h

“high standards” is a meaningless phrase. everyone has different standards and things that are important to them. i’m not saying this to be combative. you gotta tell us what specifically your standards are. for example, some of mine are: emotional regulation is a MUST, excellent conflict resolution skills, communication, and kindness (not being nice, it’s not the same.) those are all things i have and expect the same in a partner.

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Anonymous 13h

I think I would need to have more information on what your standards are and why

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Anonymous 21h

definitionally you will find fewer people you're romantically interested in if your standards are higher

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 19h

Yes ofc, I try to treat everyone with respect unless they’ve given me a very strong reason not to. Not meeting my standards would fall way far below being a strong reason

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