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Why has my girlfriend started kissing me less and less I believe she still loves me but it seems whenever she gets stressed she stops letting me kiss her and initiating kisses and that hurts me. (Looking for advice)
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Anonymous 2d

answer: stress lowers libido and feelings of intimacy for most people advice: accept that this is fairly common and normal. offer to help her destress and don't be offended if she doesn't have anything for you to do. reconsider how you frame her stress as hurting you; if you're hurt by this it's the result of unrealistic expectations placed on her

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Anonymous 2d

have you talked to her about it?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

Yah ☹️

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

She doesn’t know what to do about it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

but she agrees it happens?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

Yah but I think from what I have understood from our conversations she doesn’t really know how to fix it and also doesn’t know when it will improve

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

I would honestly say I don’t have unrealistic expectations for her. I’m more hurt by the fact that she doesn’t explain why she pulls away, and that causes me pain, especially when it happens for months at a time. From my point of view I used to receive multiple kisses a day to now I barely receive one a week. I want to support her as best as possible but it’s been a few months and I’m struggling.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

What would you say is a realistic expectation of her? And how do you know when expectations need to change and for how long?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2d

this whole situation reminds me of things my ex would do. “i know what’s happening, but idk what u want me to do abt it” when there’s a clear fix.

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Anonymous replying to -> too.complikated. 2d

I assume you never fixed the problem because they’re now your ex?

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