Ask Women on Sidechat | My long distance gf was drinking and stayed at her guy friends cabin with just him and his dad and brother. Is it reasonable to be upset? I trust her but I don’t really like it.

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Ask Women 9w

My long distance gf was drinking and stayed at her guy friends cabin with just him and his dad and brother. Is it reasonable to be upset? I trust her but I don’t really like it.

Anonymous 9w

Not normal behavior in a relationship. Most girls on her would be mad if their bf did the same thing genders reversed

Anonymous 9w

it is reasonable you were upset because of the situation. but you have to remember that if she has never given a reason before to not trust her, you have to consider that as well. sharing this feeling even if you feel it might be unreasonable is still necessary to keep a healthy, communicating relationship!

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Anonymous 9w

It sounds like she was being open and honest with you about something she could have not told you about and hid. Unless you had a clear boundary set together about friends, you shouldn’t hold this against her. You should make your boundaries clear and have an open conversation about your feelings and expectations for the future (and ask her to do the same for you)

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Anonymous 9w

Wait so you’d prefer she drink and drive and get into an accident rather than stay with someone she trusts?

Anonymous 9w

Cheating 1000%

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#2 9w

She said she wouldn’t like it if I did this and would be upset at me but ig I also broke her trust a little bit when we first started dating.. :(

Anonymous 9w

A month into dating I got a girls number and was planning a hang out but I eventually did tell her I had a gf but then she didn’t want to because she felt attraction between us so we didn’t. I saw this other girl at the bar on New Years and I did tell her I had a gf but I told my gf my feelings came back for her, she looked beautiful, and if we broke up I’d take her on a date and then I snapped her to be nice and tell her it was great to see her.

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OP 9w

My intentions were not bad tho but my gf doesn’t understand that. She doesn’t trust me around like any girls now

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OP 9w

But I don’t like the double standard

Anonymous 9w

Which part is so bad? I literally told these girls I did have a girlfriend

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Anonymous 9w

I know, now I realize but we were only dating for a month so we were VERY freshly dating

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Anonymous 9w

Doesn’t matter, she had the choice to leave then and she didn’t. That means she has to move on and doesn’t get to then hold that over for the rest of time

Anonymous 9w

I mean you’re basically apologizing her poor behavior because he acted poorly in the past. His poor behavior in the past is irrelevant and to her action

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Anonymous 9w

So if your bf stayed over a a girl friends house unannounced you’d feel no type of way

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strawberry_hair 9w

No I did not want her drinking and driving. I just wish she wouldn’t have drank so much and would’ve drove home. She did call me when she was going to sleep and we stayed on the phone though but I just know if roles were reversed she would’ve been SO upset at me

Anonymous 9w

Do you think most people would feel the same way

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OP 9w

If someone drinks even a little bit they shouldn’t be driving. She even called you and you are still upset with her?

Anonymous 9w

So you think a guy should randomly unprompted in a relationship just come out of no where and state that’s a boundary for the future lmao