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This isn’t a question and sorry for that. I just wanted to put this here because I feel like men are very misunderstood when it comes to dating and I know a lot of women have questions about it. This basically sums up a good portion of dating as a man
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Anonymous 20h

cry and cope. we all do this. it's not a woman's fault you don't wanna get out there. i have no respect for people who wallow in self pity

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Anonymous 23h

My problem personally is I am told that men now want to be asked out in places like here by guys but every time I do I am judged for it. Then I come back here and ask and they say it was “just bad luck”. How many times will it be just bad luck?

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Anonymous 21h

Idk if it’s that deep, I’m just chopped and overweight. Until that changes, there’s really no point in trying lol

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Anonymous 21h

really? im in the dating scene ig and haven’t seen this at all. still see men pursuing and i get cold approached a lot

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Anonymous 18h

I mean I see that, but also we all feel the same way. I’ve approached and being rejected isn’t that bad tbh. I feel like a bigger problem is those who internalize it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 23h

I feel like dating today is hell for everyone. I think it’s something like 60% of dating happens online now and honestly they shouldn’t judge you for it. I have no idea why they would do that other than it being somewhat unnatural to use like yikyak and yikyak like communities for dating but still that’s your call on what you want to do. People are naturally judgmental towards those who break norms

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 21h

Oh I don't use YikYak for dating. I'm talking about in person. Just people on YikYak seem to want women to ask but when I actually do to people in real life they see it as “not my place”

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 20h

fair

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 19h

if you’re cold approaching, then that’s just how it is. men have the exact same question for women anytime we give them advice, but it doesn’t work 100% of the time—or even most of the time. the guys who judge you for approaching them def werent for you, anyways :p

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 17h

I don’t see anything wrong with internalizing it, as long as it’s a catalyst for change, rather than an inhibitor.

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Anonymous replying to -> sea_taco 15h

I guess- but I’ve never seen a single person who internalized rejection for the better. Maybe that’s just my experience though.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair Just now

Idk it got me to start therapy and change my diet. I lost like 20 pounds this summer.

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