Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

“plenty of people” I notice this being said a lot by people who definitely *do* have experience. It feels less authentic when every comment replying saying that things are fine are coming from non-virgins.

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Anonymous #4 2w

How do you know anyone’s experience on here? Assuming my words have no merit based on another assumption is just low. Besides I’m not only taking from my perspective. I know people who haven’t had sex and they are totally fine with it.

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

“How do you know anyone's experience on here?” Uh, pretty easy to tell. If OP mentioned that they’re a virgin, it holds a lot more weight to say “I am a virgin, too, and things are going well for me in my life” instead of saying “plenty of OTHER people” Notice that not even one person replying has said that she/he is a virgin, so I’m sorry if I feel like they don’t understand what it’s like. But that is simply the case: they do not know what it’s like, so it does not feel authentic.

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Anonymous aquacyclone 2w

If it’s more common than OP thinks, how come everyone telling him “it’s going to be alright” has had plenty of sexual experience? If it was “more common,” how come no one who has replied so far has said “I’m a virgin, too, and things are going great for me!” If you have to speak on behalf of other people to say that “they are doing well,” it doesn’t feel as authentic.

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Anonymous #4 2w

It’s literally been an hour. The fact you are making these assumptions on so little time is ridiculous first of all. Second of all why do they have to say “my life is going well” OP said that they feel like a “freak who doesn’t have experience” and thus people who have experience are saying it’s okay to not have experience, you can still get some.

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Anonymous #4 2w

Because OP said “I feel like a freak who doesn’t have experience” i feel like someone with experience saying “you’re not a freak and its not a big deal” is a perfectly reasonable response? Why are you getting so worked up OP’s behalf? You’re giving rage bait

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Anonymous strawberry_hair 2w

Because you are speaking on behalf of how virgins feel. You are saying that it is fine. I don’t think that you should speak on their behalf nor on how they feel. Of course how they feel is relevant here. If OP feels like a freak, they are not feeling well. Another virgin telling him that they are *also* unhappy will have the opposite message that yours did: yours said “it’s fine” but someone saying they’re not well may disagree.

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Anonymous #5 2w

Someone speaking on behalf of virgins (while not being one) to tell virgins that they shouldn't feel bad is an issue to me because they don't know what it's like. "It's not so bad!" is an easy message to write if you're not a virgin

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Anonymous #4 2w

Babe try to need to relax & stop making so many assumptions. I’m a virgin too, my original answer remains unchanged. It’s not a big deal. Input from our friends who aren’t virgins is also welcome here, the more viewpoints & experiences the better!

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Anonymous #8 2w

It’s unfortunately true Men are expected to be sexual. If the woman he dates starts talking about her past experience, she will be surprised that he can’t relate (which she could take personally) or might think he’s lying because “men are sex crazed” Specifically for men who don’t have sex, there’s expected to be a reason given for “why” they haven’t. And yes, it is seen as “being unsuccessful” with women which means some will see it as a “red flag”

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Anonymous #8 2w

It hurts to say that you’re right, but you are right

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Anonymous #4 2w

IN MY EXPERIENCE AS A WOMAN I WOULD RATHER HAVE A MAN WITH NO EXPERIENCE THAN A MAN WHO HAS LOTS OF EXPERIENCE, don’t speak on women’s behalf when you just told non virgins to not speak on virgins behalf, thank you!

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Anonymous #10 2w

B-b-b-but (insert sexist assumption here)!!

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Anonymous #10 2w

Liar

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Anonymous #11 2w

literally no, but sure me what I think, u would know better than i do right

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Anonymous #10 2w

Bc guys like that don’t date. Every man I know with no experience don’t have romantic prospects

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Anonymous #10 2w

In my experience women have showed significant interest up until I tell them I’m a virgin and then change their mind

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Anonymous #8 2w

Exactly. They’re full of shit

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Anonymous #8 2w

that’s so weird i would prefer a guy who hasn’t been with a lot of women, not that there’s anything wrong with that but i was my bfs second and he’s perfect and im so glad he hasn’t been with a bunch of women, and i know a lot of girls feel the same. i think just causally tho its scary for a girl to take ur virginity if you are looking it from a stand point that they dont want a relationship bc they might think there could be strings attached. i cant speak for all women neither can these men

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Anonymous #10 2w

“i would prefer a guy who hasn’t been with a lot of women” I have no issue with that and hope that more women agree. Would make me feel better. But you mentioned “no experience” (as in zero) in your comment which is different from “little experience.” And I hope you are being consistent here. You want him to have little (or no) experience, so I hope you met him with little (or no) experience as well…

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Anonymous #4 2w

i wish i had met him when he had no experience but that just didn’t happen, he had had sex once before which i feel like is no experience but you’re right he has had some experience, i wish he hadn’t though, i wish he hadn’t had his fist with another girl i would’ve loved to been his first and i prefer when a ma hasn’t had a bunch of experiences with other women to compare me too yk? i also just would rather a man who a bunch of girls know what is like in bed and stuff yk

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Anonymous #10 2w

And like I said in many of my comments, men specifically are said to be “unsuccessful” if they are virgins and some women even see that as a “red flag” For example, “The 40 Year Old Virgin” is a comedy movie about a man who can’t lose his virginity. Being an older virgin man is definitely seen as indicative of “being a loser” in popular culture

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Anonymous #10 2w

Ok, thanks for the reply. I will point out that you didn’t answer my second question which was whether you also had little or no experience when you met him. Because if you want him to have little or no experience, I hope you also were the same when you met him. Otherwise, that is a double standard

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hi sorry! i was doing hw and living my life, i had one body when my bf and i got together!

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is that what you wanted to hear? thanks for berating me, maybe go get a life and get off of this app?

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Anonymous #10 2w

Yeah I do need to get a life. Alright, have a good rest of your day and good luck with the homework

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What expectation did I list that has anything to do with porn? lol It has to do with how I was treated. How I have experienced being treated personally I don’t want to go into more personal detail than that. It has nothing to do with porn, and i challenge you to explain what you mean because …I actually don’t even see how that’s relevant

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