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Why do guys care about body count so much?
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Anonymous 2w

Depends on the situation, if you are waiting til marriage you’d want to meet someone who has the same ideals. A high body count for either gender is a red flag in any capacity, there are statistics about lengths of relationships/marriage with high body count partners. 43% of marriages end in divorce with either partner having 10+ bodies. How can you become monogamous with someone when you’ve been with that many different people

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Anonymous 2w

A couple of things. While I know this is an “asking women” field. As a guy I care about body count but less from a judgey attitude standpoint and more of a concern standpoint because of my own sexual experiences. Most people I’ve met whether men or women have had both good and very bad experiences. Whether something as like awkward moments or something far more traumatic like sexual assault, rape and getting cheated on. These things take a lot of time to heal from and can impact future

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Anonymous 2w

Insecurity and fear of being compared to other men

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Anonymous 2w

Diseases

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Anonymous 2w

Some decent guys would care bc they don’t want to date someone who sleeps around. Different values and incompatibility. Ofc those men who have a low count themselves (and by choice).

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Anonymous 2w

STDs like herpes become almost guaranteed at some point and also risk of divorce and partner satisfaction are extremely high and low respectively. Probably because they can’t stop comparing to their extensive past so no one exists who can measure up to the best parts of 20 different dudes combined

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Anonymous 2w

Men want to be with a woman that other men can’t be with even if they tried. It’s like a woman loses a little value when she just goes around sleeping with a lot of men.

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Anonymous 2w

The whole argument of: “a key that opens all doors is a master key, a lock that opens for any key is useless” or something like that comes to mind.

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Anonymous 2w

It’s comprehensible to me, I am a person with a very high body count. It has prevented me from having normal monogamous relationships due to the casual feeling of sexual activities. I changed my ways 2 years ago, a lot of things still arent normal.

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Anonymous 2w

I never said it did, there are statistics online you can read about it. It sounds to me like you’re insecure about your actions and projecting the fact you can change onto everyone else to avoid the fact you cannot.

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Anonymous 2w

So if you don’t have direct experience, and I do, why are you trying to give unsolicited advice?

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Anonymous 2w

Statistics don’t lie though! Have a good day!

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Anonymous 2w

You should check out the online Reddit forum with 74 thousand members of people struggling to have normal monogamous relationships after having a past. It’ll open your eyes to see the effects it has on lives. It’s a mental illness more so then it is a choice

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Anonymous 2w

Reddit is an anonymous app just like this, it’s not a hate group it’s genuinely people asking for help and tips for anyone who’s overcome a sex addiction

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Anonymous 2w

Sex addiction is a medically recognized illness, not a joke

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Anonymous 2w

Once again you’re keying on something, I never said you can’t. I shared my opinion just as you’re forcefully trying to shove yours down my throat!

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Anonymous 2w

Where did I ever say it’s a universal fact? I can tell you are a woman lmao always trynna make arguments out of thin air

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Anonymous 2w

Son I’m cryin, u responded to my comment 😭🙏 I didn’t generalize anything miss “I’ve been with one person in 5 years”

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Anonymous 2w

So there’s a thing called statistics, it’s science brochacho

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Anonymous 2w

Found your social media and you haven’t been with 1 person out of choice😭✌️ you r a hard 4

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

Did they delete their posts?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Yes they deleted all of them. I won.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

Future relationships. It’s more about now your full story than your now deemed less valuable. It’s just a recognition of “hey you’ve gone through some hard stuff, I want to know if you have any triggers, struggles with intimacy and etc” more so than anything. This way it gives clear communication in a relationship.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

LOL

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

That’s a terrible analogy.

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Anonymous replying to -> sleepin 2w

Nah it’s gas

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

Because you think men are keys and women are locks? If opening the lock means making her O… i fear most men are unable to open the O for women. Lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

It’s only gas if you view women as objects

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

So men decreases a woman’s value. Interesting concept.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

You really thought you ate with that one huh. I’d have you know women know I respect them. Men and women are just inherently different and that’s a beautiful thing.

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Anonymous replying to -> sleepin 2w

Now this was a bad analogy

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 2w

You don’t respect women if you objectify them. Seriously, what is the key? What is the lock? 🙄

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