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i’m an asexual girlie and worried that i’ll never find love! do yall there any hope that i’ll ever find a man who won’t cheat bc he has “needs”:(
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Anonymous 4w

I’m also an ace girlie so you’re not alone in this! 💜

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Anonymous 4w

Yes it’s possible. You will have to figure out a game plan though. Like what are you ok with doing, what are you ok with him doing, etc

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Anonymous 4w

just as long as it's with an ace guy. which sucks bc there's none. but...idk it is what it is. i'm asexual and i think a lot of asexual people are so lonely and desperate that they force themselves into believing that they can make a relationship with with an allo person work—but i am a firm believer that stuff like that will never work. the truth is you have to find an asexual person or just make the sacrifice

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Anonymous 4w

I’m aro ace, all I need is a platonic soulmate fr 😭

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Anonymous 4w

well duh no one can be intimate with you and intimacy is a part of love

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

and even then, even if you act like a allo person, there’s still gonna be a disconnect because you’re just not on the same page. sex doesn’t mean the same thing to both of you. you’re not loving and appreciating your partner in all the ways they deserve. it’s not an equal relationship even if you are having sex like a regular allo couple. because you’re doing something you don’t really understand/enjoy and your partner is not getting the intimacy that they deserve

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

3 of the guys I’ve dated are ace so they do exist. And there are ace specific groups/dating apps that you can use. It’s tricky finding them though.

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Anonymous replying to -> forget_me_not 4w

they exist but there’s like 5 ace guys per state and on top of that they have to be in your age range and mesh with your personality and have the same goals (kids, living destination, etc) and also be attractive

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Anonymous replying to -> forget_me_not 4w

i wish i was allo so bad i literally hate being asexual

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Anonymous replying to -> forget_me_not 4w

the way i see it—if you’re ace, you can still date, you just have to choose whether you want your partner to be emotionally compatible, goal-aligned, attractive, or in your age range. bc u can have one at most😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

me too:( it would be different if i wasn’t repulsed bc then i’d prob have sex for my partner but unfortunately bc of ptsd and my brain chemistry that’s ultimately impossible💔

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

lmaoo i just got this

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 4w

Id like to think theres more to that honestly. I think dedicating yourself to someone is a huge part of it. I think we overlook so many different types of relationships because we immediately default to romantic ones.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 4w

That’s a good point actually

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 4w

Same, friend

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 4w

i totally agree that intimacy is a huge part of love!! that’s one of my biggest reasons i’m worried bc i don’t want to have to put myself through something that would definitely be traumatic for me but i think partly my asexual allows me to be more in tune with other forms of intimacy! but i think every form is beautiful and don’t want to end up depriving anyone of any sexual intimacy they need/want even if they want to make something work

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