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Why is it that lonely men are considered “dodged bullets”? I mean don’t get me wrong there’s definitely some really sour apples but that’s in every group. They get such a negative connotation for having mental health issues which is just stigma
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Anonymous 2w

I’ve never actually seen it in the context you refer to. People just tend to notice signs, red flags or bad vibes with a guy’s mental health correlating to how he treats ppl. And then that’s when they say it

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Anonymous 2w

Well tbh i've never heard that being the case for the general group of "lonely men". Are you seeing this just online or in real life to because I don't think it's as big of a thing as you think it is

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Anonymous 2w

Most women have had to spend their lives analyzing every aspect of a person to make sure they are safe. Sometimes if a man if giving off energy that isn’t easily identifiable my brain immediately puts it in a be cautious category, if you are behaving strangely you could be a threat to me. I’m saying this as a socially anxious autistic woman (I get social awkwardness). Also we may subconsciously pick up on things you can’t because we’ve been operating in that state for so long.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Both. I mean most of my experiences hearing this were online in fact the role reason why I’m on this rant right now is because I literally just saw something on my schools yikyak page about someone commenting this girl dodged a bullet because the guy she was on a first date with was awkward which baffled because awkwardness comes from nervousness which means that he really liked her

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

But I’ve seen it in person too. I still remember this from years ago but I overheard a group of girls call this guy “creepy” for literally just standing behind them waiting in line for food while playing Tetris on his phone. Everybody knows bullying exists and I’ve even been bullied myself in highschool by my crushes friends for being awkward when I approached her.I dotn have anything explicit but I would be beyond amazed that people bully people with disabilities and everything under the moon

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

But draw the line at mental health when there’s proof of stigma

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Men laugh at awkward women too

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

Also if you are acting like you haven’t talked to a woman before or don’t have female friends it can be off putting. Men who see women as mythical creatures often forget that we are human and have some weird misconceptions; I want to know you will respect/like me not some idea of me.

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