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Would you drop out of college and get married if your man was going to the military? I’m asking bc my friend thinks it’s a good idea and I need other opinions (she is also 19 and trying for a baby)😭.. they also got married after 4 months
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Anonymous 23h

This whole thing sounds like a mess. 19 and trying for a baby? Married after 4 months? Dropping out of college for a man you won’t even see? Insane. As her friend I would make sure she is okay

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Anonymous 1d

Id never date someone in the military

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Anonymous 23h

She needs to finish her degree not only for herself and to have security for the both of them in case she needs to support them but when he goes off for training she’s not gonna be doing anything but waiting around for him so she needs to finish her degree for her independence as well

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Anonymous 1d

absolutely not omg, what if something happens to him and she needs to financially support them? the job market is hard enough, finishing her degree is the least she can do to get herself some form of safety net if she needs it. ik some areas of the country get married much sooner than where i’m from, so im trying not to judge too much there, but holy shit finishing her education is SO important

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Anonymous 1d

besides the fact this is just a crazy life choice, she wouldn’t even be able to live with him if he goes to basic training. does she think it’s a good idea for the benefits or what because if anything it’ll cause more stress on a relationship

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Anonymous 1d

Ima be totally real with you girlie I would not drop my safety net if I were you 😭

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Anonymous 1d

Tell him it’s a bad idea to join right now

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Anonymous 15h

Aside from,,, ALL OF THAT, tell her not to drop out. Or at least to have a job lined up if she does. One that makes decent money. She needs a safety net

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Anonymous 14h

if your friend is actually you then please know we are worried like actually worried

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Anonymous 21h

I think it’ll be very irresponsible on your part to become 100 financial dependent on anymore .. especially a man even if he is your husband !

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Anonymous 1d

Way too young

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Anonymous 22h

girl, military men cheat and brag about it to their coworkers. my friend is in the navy and she is an engineman and surrounded by males and they all brag about how many women they’ve been with and how their wives don’t know.

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Anonymous 18h

ONE HUNDRED PERCENT NO IS CRAZYYYY SAVE HER

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Anonymous 1d

Girl save her

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Anonymous 20h

100% on 100 people is hilarious

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Anonymous 21h

finish your degree

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Anonymous 21h

Frankly, your friend is an idiot

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Anonymous 18h

as someone in the military i would never want that or ask that of someone personally😭 that genuinely sounds like top 10 bad ideas ever and i hope this doesn’t emotionally destroy anyone bc ive seen it happen

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Anonymous 22h

always be able to take care of yourself. you don’t have to break up with him but don’t marry him, don’t have his babies, and when u catch him cheating LEAVE the first time cuz it’s gonna keep happening!!

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Anonymous 11h

also, this reminds me of a comment i read the other day, if you give a man (or anyone) the power to feed you, you give them the power to starve you.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 22h

Word

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 18h

I have never seen this group in such agreement before damn

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