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How should I bring up to my boyfriend that he hasn’t been sexually satisfying me? I don’t even think he tries anymore he never initiates foreplay, cums in like a minute, then just rolls over and moves on. Is it me? I feel gross
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Anonymous 10w

This will make you resent him if you don’t communicate it to him, the sooner the better.

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Anonymous 10w

You shouldn’t have to ask him to care about your pleasure, he clearly just doesn’t care and that’s that. I’d break up with him

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Anonymous 10w

Maybe it’s all a sign you should find someone new.. it sounds like he has no respect for you at all

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Anonymous 10w

maybe he depressed

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Anonymous 10w

I had this issue with my ex boyfriend. I just cheated on him.. hope this helps ❤️.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

Maybe? he’s pretty good at talking to me about his mental health and he’s been doing better now than he was before. he still initiates sex but it’s like only for him I guess? He uses positions he knows hurt me, doesn’t use a condom or lube which he knows worsens the experience for me, as well as makes him cum faster so we’re having sex for like a minute max most of the time, then he just immediately starts talking about what he’s gonna have for lunch or smth. I just feel inadequate.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 10w

I agree I just don’t know how to? Like do I just go upstairs and confront him? He gets so defensive, he literally got defensive about me saying I wanted to stay in bed today for a little bit longer. I don’t know how he’ll react to me saying he doesn’t satisfy me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Wait til it’s initiated again and mention it or try to urge for more. If he doesn’t make the effort call him out. If he can’t take the criticism and grow for you he’s not the one. WE DESERVE TO BE SATISFIED TOO!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Put him in a comfortable position and say you need to talk to him about something important that’s been weighing on your mind. I am a guy but I thought I’d still respond from his perspective. Every guy gets defensive for their own reasons and some more than others, I have a buddy that sounds more like your bf but he still will take it poorly a little and if he’s a keeper he will still try to improve on it even if it’s hard to hear.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 10w

Or buy a vibrator and whip that out right next to him and finish the job after sex next time

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10w

I like all these ideas but this is my favorite. Unfortunately I literally hide using my vibrator from him because I’m so scared it will just make him insecure and defensive

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Anonymous 9w

Why should she hide it tho? Just tell him straight up she’s not satisfied

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