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Anyone else get the ick when a man asks them to stop doing something "for them?" Like if they ask you to stop drinking or smoking, etc.
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Anonymous 12w

Yes and no? Its a right idea wrong execution situation. He wants you to have healthier habits but is using himself as a bargaining chip

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Anonymous 12w

As a man I just get the ick in general whenever someone does that "for me 🥺🥺🥺?"

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Anonymous 12w

Are they doing it for them or for your health? But if it’s small things like “you should cut back on the coffee you spend way too much” then it’s an ick

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12w

So yes i get the ick bc he is using himself but no because I think he is just concerned for me

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12w

I'm by far not an alcohol or anything. I drink VERY occasionally and he knew I was gonna have a few drinks this night and went on a whole rant about how alcohol is poison and drinking is terrible. I was like no yeah I know that's why I use everything in moderation. Same with weed.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 12w

Right, like oh my goddddd let me tear my eyes out then we can talk

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12w

Sounds like he's trying to change you to fit his standards

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12w

Valid, I agree.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12w

I mean, if you’ve expressed that you want to save more money or you’re spending too much, he can just be offering advice to help you meet a goal.. 🤷🏾‍♀️ I definitely wouldn’t call that an ick

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