Ask Women on Sidechat | Why do most women claim they, themselves ugly/unattractive? Maybe it’s not a “most” thing but in my experience it is. 95% of women I see are attractive and it makes me feel bad that many of you don’t see yourselves that way.

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Ask Women 18h

Why do most women claim they, themselves ugly/unattractive? Maybe it’s not a “most” thing but in my experience it is. 95% of women I see are attractive and it makes me feel bad that many of you don’t see yourselves that way.

Anonymous 18h

Beauty standards are fucked. I have been told my whole life I’m ugly and at some point you start to believe it. I was told I looked fat when I weighed 115 pounds

Anonymous 18h

It’s 2 big things 1) we’re conditioned from very young to believe if we don’t fit a certain set of standards that we don’t count as pretty and 2) when we DO get confident about our looks we’re told that we need to humble ourselves

Anonymous 16h

Beauty standards are fucked up. And society has deemed us as unattractive especially being a woman of color

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Anonymous 18h

Our beauty standards are so fucked up. I was made fun of for being skinny and small when I was just a smaller girl before puberty. Were also taught from a very young age to change ourselves to meet the beauty standards.

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Anonymous 18h

One time I was on the bus and this random stranger sat next to me and started telling me how bad my acne was and what brand face washes I should use. I was 16.

Anonymous 13h

Part of it is also a grass is greener on the other side thing. Even if my features are beautiful, I have an easier time seeing beauty in other people bc I’ve spent my life resenting my face (Chat is better now I actually love how I look I just had a phase)

Anonymous 12h

I mean… are you actually seeing all women? Like genuinely. Men tend to just literally not notice women they view as unattractive. I’ve had people literally stop my friend on the sidewalk to flirt, then almost do a double take when they realize I’m also there.

Anonymous 17h

I don’t think it’s most women. If you ask 100 women to rate themselves on a scale of 1-10 a lot of them will say they’re a 10

Anonymous 13h

Most women think they are above average in attractiveness lol

Anonymous

strawberry_hair 18h

Now I have another question, who is making fun of you? Is it actual people, society, fandoms on the internet? Some combination?

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Anonymous

OP 18h

It was actually people at the time. I was very heavily bullied for my chest, my looks and everything along those lines. I was also bullied on the internet, getting hate comments and views on a instagram video that harassed me.

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Anonymous

polaris_55 17h

I was also bullied a bit, I got called ugly a few times and was asked out to a dance as a joke/dare among other things

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Anonymous

#5 17h

I don’t know a single woman who would rate themselves 10

Anonymous

strawberry_hair 17h

I watch too many trashy redpill dating podcasts lol

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Anonymous

#5 17h

Yeah that’s not the average person. Also on those, they tend to put women down so women might rank higher to show their words don’t effect them

Anonymous

#6 16h

Woman of color is too broad imo it’s mostly black and Indian women that are viewed as unattractive

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Anonymous

#5 16h

I don’t think it’s that broad. A bunch of women of color aren’t seen as attractive bc of western or white beauty standards. And I’m black so 🤨

Anonymous

#6 16h

I’m pretty sure I know this by now

Anonymous

#6 16h

I disagree. Latina and Asian women are viewed as attractive. Black and Indian women get the bad wrap

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Anonymous

polaris_55 16h

YES! I was asked out as a joke so many times. I’m so sorry that happened to you, it’s truly awful

Anonymous

#5 16h

They’re fetishized which is the only reason why. Most women of color aren’t attractive, just “exotic” which makes it intriguing. And weird to say as if black and Indian women aren’t also attractive

Anonymous

#6 16h

I know Latina and Asian women that are viewed as unattractive so

Anonymous

#6 15h

And there are white women that are viewed as unattractive? So? I’m not saying black and Indian women aren’t attractive. But society definitely views Latina and Asian women as attractive. And it’s not just due to fetishization.

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Anonymous

#5 15h

It’s fetishization. Weirdly enough you only prove our point by picking the most Eurocentric looking women of color as attractive and the rest as unattractive only proving our point that it’s societal beauty standards fault

Anonymous

#6 15h

Also weird you’re trying to use illogical fallacy and an irrelevant comment to prove your own point when you already dismissed it by saying women view themselves as 10s. I’ve never met a single woman to rate herself a 10 naturally. The most would prob be a 7 to high 8 if they’re very very confident but never a 10

Anonymous

#5 15h

I’m black and I’m sexy asf I don’t care about what beauty standards say and everyone else shouldn’t either

Anonymous

#7 14h

As you shouldn’t

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Anonymous

#6 14h

I’ve never said that it wasn’t societal beauty standards fault I just disagreed where the attractive/unattractive beauty standard line is.

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Anonymous

#6 14h

Ive seen plenty of women rate themselves as 10’s you guys must be living under a rock lmao

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Anonymous

#5 14h

Why shouldn’t I ? It’s not like I got more lives to live why would I spend this life worrying about the beauty standards especially something I can’t change like my skin color so I’m just happy and confident not miserable like u

Anonymous

#7 14h

I think you misunderstood my comment lol. I’m saying you shouldn’t care about beauty standards

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Anonymous

#5 14h

Even the most confident woman isn’t doing that unless she’s cocky. I think I’m pretty cute but not 10 drop dead gorgeous. Maybe a 6-7

Anonymous

#5 14h

You’re disagreeing while improving the point anyway. So it contradicted you bc the beauty standard is looking more Eurocentric. And most men only find them attractive bc of “innocence” or “big booty toxicity”. Something men labeled them as not what they truly are

Anonymous

#6 14h

You disagreeing is also just you being weirdly ignorant and/or racist tho so

Anonymous

#6 14h

I don’t think it’s weirdly ignorant or racist to make an observation that black and Indian women are treated far worse than any other group but ok.

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Anonymous

#5 14h

But that isn’t what you said lol

Anonymous

#5 14h

Yes but that’s not what you said you ultimately used the beauty standard to justify them being unattractive to uphold Asian and Latina women. Which are usually the women closer to the beauty standard in the first place. The darker the skin the more unattractive they are

Anonymous

#1 13h

That’s exactly what I said tf?

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Anonymous

#6 13h

I never justified anything I simply made an observation.

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Anonymous

#5 13h

But…the observation is rooted in racism towards darker skin toned women of color 😃

Anonymous

#6 13h

The beauty standard is rooted in racism towards darker skin toned women of color, the observation that it happens it just the observation lol

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Anonymous

#5 13h

In which I said earlier. But you’re acting like Asian and Latina women also cannot suffer from the beauty standard and just were racist about it