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Everyone always says “the harder you try to find love, the more you repel it” but when I don’t try absolutely nothing happens. Is this not just a lose-lose scenario? 😭
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Anonymous 2w

the harder you try, the more likely you are to find a relationship thats not meant for you. waiting patiently for the right person is the long game but worth it

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Anonymous 2w

Its about your attitude, not your actions. I will admit it is HARD to find even just friends in your community once you graduate college. I think everyone has to put in effort to try to meet people & be friendly as a baseline (getting involved w ur community, joining a gym, club, etc erc). That is truly the only way you can think about finding a partner if you arent down with dating apps. THAT SAID: when you are desperate you will take anything you can find. ++

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Well in my case I can’t find anyone whether they’re meant for me or not

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Anonymous replying to -> powwowwie 2w

+ Which that attitude rubs off on your clothes & your demeanor. It attracts manipulators, gold diggers, cheaters, people who lack integrity & seek to find small people to take advantage of. When you are confident, strong in your boundaries, & not eager, you'll find better luck.

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Anonymous replying to -> powwowwie 2w

Insecurity is unfortunately a poison that seeps out into your clothes, your voice, and your posture. People can tell when a person has deep rooted insecurity.

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Anonymous replying to -> powwowwie 2w

Sure I’m insecure as all hell but I doubt anyone could tell unless they’re Einstein considering I don’t try anymore. Plus how can you not be insecure when no one has ever been interested in you in your life?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Others have managed! Its not impossible. I think that is also apart of the negative attitude element. This black and white thinking - convinced that you're doomed to fail because you fell a couple times. Feeling 'fated' to suck, only makes your performance worse. Its an awful mental cycle, im afraid. Takes a couple years to get out of it, but when you're on the other side you will understand.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Just consider the fact that millions of successful people we know today have fallen several times before they found success. They didn't find it by staying on the ground. They continued to get back up despite falling over and over and over again. You have given up, but you can try again.

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