Anonymous #1 6w

Not surprised. Technically men have always been more likely to be bystanders in a lot of situations including health if its not their job

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Anonymous #1 5w

It can also be affected by racism a brown man was jailed for stopping a kid from falling in a store and racists thought he was trying to kidnap or molest it despite surveillance footage showing exactly what happened. As a mixed guy I’d try to find another woman who can give CPR or worse case scenario a white man whose intentions wouldn’t be misunderstood by racists.

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Anonymous #2 5w

I mean yeah racism is real but it’s also not the same thing. There’s intersectionality to what you’re describing. Black and brown people are an oppressed class and therefore have valid reason for caution. Men are an oppressor class and are not going to be hit with “false accusations” from doing CPR just on the basis of their gender. So what you’re describing isn’t what I’m talking about.

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Anonymous #1 5w

Like it is is worth pointing out if you know CPR and decide to find somebody else the time you take to do that means the incapacitated person is probably going to have brain damage or die. The math with this decision is ofc different for a POC but I really don’t have sympathy for somebody who doesn’t render aid and the reason they give is just “I’m a man.”

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Anonymous #1 5w

there was a guy in my schools yikyak posting abt how he refused to help a passed out drunk girl he found outside the dorms bc he didnt want ppl to see “him a man next to a passed out drunk girl and ppl think hes a rapist”😐😐

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Anonymous #3 5w

My ex thought it was better that he just take me home because i was puking and literally went unconscious drunk (forgot i took meds and decided to drink for Halloween, stupid 19 year old things) because he was worried that the EMT's on scene would think he's a creep if he took me to them (there was an ambulance on standby at this party) because he was 23 at the time. They told him I would have possibly died from his decision.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Then the whole time he kept asking if he was going to be in trouble and not once asked if I was ok to the point where one of the guys whispered to me that he wasn't a good bf 😭

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Anonymous OP 5w

I get the concern however being so willing to let someone die or sustain serious harm to protect your image is wild to me

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Anonymous #1 5w

Is there a hierarchy of oppression now what?? I don’t get these hyper academic statements with no nuance. There’s literally a direct example of a brown person helping someone and getting punished for it and black communities have cultural statements like “white tears will give you years” how does that still make them oppressors

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Anonymous OP 5w

Yeah that’s fucked if it is your gf you should help her at all costs, self sacrifice is the purest form of love

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Anonymous #2 5w

I need you to read what I said again and look up intersectionality because you clearly don’t understand what I said.

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Anonymous #1 5w

Like I actually didn’t even downvote your initial comment because I think there’s truth to it. My point though it’s that that’s not a fear that comes from being a man. It’s one that comes from being *a man of color,* and is therefore not actually a rebuttal to my point about misogyny and men as a whole class coming up with reasons not to help women or feeling persecuted *for being men *

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