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Ask Women 18h
I love this girl I’m dating she’s sweet and funny, smart, but my god it feels like I’m the first non white guy she’s dated. She’ll say stuff like “I’m turning Asian, I just got more rice!”, “hip hop is too black for me” or “7-11 owners should sell Indian-
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Anonymous 18h

I honestly can’t deal with people like that and would break up but I’m not you. Maybe try and inform her that she is being racist, even if not trying to

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Anonymous 18h

-goods from their home country”. I don’t think she’s being intentionally insensitive but like I can’t tell if she kinda assumes anyone who isn’t white isn’t from America. What am I supposed to do here? Do I explain it’s insensitive what she’s saying? Or do I just say nothing and have her learn on her own?

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Anonymous 18h

That’s definitely uncomfortable and I’d say something just like hey babe maybe u shouldn’t say stuff like that Ik u don’t mean to but it can come off tone deaf

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Anonymous 12h

yeah no leave her

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

Here’s the thing- she was born in Louisiana and we met in our north eastern university. Her family is deeply entrenched in a maga specific area even if they identify as left/ apolitical people. And given the kinds of educational laws in that area, I almost doubt any of what she says is intentional. So is it racist? No. But is it still exhausting to listen to? One hundred percent

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 17h

I have. She’ll ask why it’s hurtful cause to her it just makes sense like saying “the sky is blue” or “whales swim in the ocean”.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

You can be unintentionally racist. Doesn’t mean you’re an evil horrible person, just that you absorbed certain messages. Do you think she would take it well if you told her these comments make you uncomfortable?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 17h

Oh nvm I just read your other comments. Yeah idk what advice to give, having to explain these things sounds exhausting. Maybe there’s some media out there that you can find and show her to help her understand. Like podcasts, video essays, books, etc

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 17h

Either way she should want to learn more if you express that it’s important to you that she does so

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15h

I’m white and that stuff would have me tired and annoyed and wanting to roll my eyes

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 14h

And my family has said not quite that but close enough. But I feel like I still spent enough time around other people not like that and even online to become my own person and have that stuff drive me crazy idk

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