Ask Women on Sidechat | Question for the girls as a feminist myself: what is your best rebuttal/response to men who say “women only want creeps/bad men,” “I’m too chopped for a woman due to X,” even “I hate women because I’ll never be picked.”

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Question for the girls as a feminist myself: what is your best rebuttal/response to men who say “women only want creeps/bad men,” “I’m too chopped for a woman due to X,” even “I hate women because I’ll never be picked.”

Anonymous 21h

i mean it depends the context. if it’s randoms on the internet you should just block them and move on. if it’s someone you care about in your personal life i think it’s worth the time to talk about how patriarchy creates unrealistic and dangerous expectations for what straight relationships are supposed to look like. obvi tailor to the person but there isn’t really a quick quipy way to discuss a very complex social force and systemic structures

Anonymous 1d

Tbh I'd just laugh in their face because they sound dumb as hell

Anonymous 1d

women are not a monolith! they hate when you say that. and truthfully, you can’t argue with people who are deep in the manosphere worldview or get people out of belief systems they aren’t ready to let go of. i’d try planting seeds of doubt (“is that true?” “do the people posting about that even try anymore?” “whatever you say man, whatever”) and backing off. don’t stand for individual misogynistic moments but recognize that you can’t change the worldview yourself unless you get really lucky

Anonymous 19h

“Well I don’t wonder why with the energy you’re giving.”

Anonymous 18h

“Atleast you’re self aware” is always a good one

Anonymous 19h

Tbh I just kinda ignore them. I’ve SEEN who my friends thirst over. I know it’s not always about looks. They just sound silly

Anonymous 1d

Personally I’m not what most people would call attractive imo (not a ton of defined masc features, not any woman’s “ideal man”) and even I’ve had plenty of women find me worth talking to (both interested and just friends). So my personal experiences don’t really reflect what these men say. And when I tell men I’m lowkey not very attractive, just have a decent personality, they just say “oh ur still in the top 10% anyway” or whatever unsubstantiated bullshit they heard on Reddit.

Anonymous 19h

Thanks guys. These are all good!

Anonymous

#2 23h

most lonely men are lonely because they lack life skills & women are able to support ourselves without them, so most women want a man on his personal merits (equal partnership, skills, looks, thrill maybe money sometimes lol) but we no longer NEED men. women are operating on want. attraction is weird & unpredictable. there is nothing manosphere assholes can do about it

Anonymous

#3 21h

because the issue is very rarely the individual statement it’s the assumptions and framework that underlies them.

Anonymous

OP 19h

I basically tell men literally the women they are upset at are the way they are because they are just a symptom of the patriarchy. If you want to get upset at women for dating a creep and not you, maybe consider why she’s doing it and then advocate against rxpe, SA, sexualization of women and kids, women’s inequality, child abuse etc.

Anonymous

#4 19h

This will make men rage quit in male loneliness. It’s honestly entertaining to watch

Anonymous

OP 18h

If you tailor your comments they work better. Once told a dude his corona was “basic bitch beer” because he was hitting on both me and my freshly 18 (I’m older) cousin at the same time. It might’ve not landed exactly perfect because I was very tipsy on margs but it’s still funny and I will use it again with a craft ipa in my hand someday (I hope). I’m a beer snob but only use my powers against douche canoes that try to look cool.

Anonymous

#5 16h

The amount of girls that simp over guys I don’t find attractive AT ALL proves looks are subjective and every woman wants something different. Men will make every excuse instead of just working on themselves…

Anonymous

OP 13h

Omg right? Like I watched my cousin and friend literally drool over a dude that made me nauseous to be in the same room as him. Though that may have been because his ego sucked up all the oxygen.

Anonymous

#4 13h

SERIOUSLY but again if proves any man can find love, so the degens complaining about being lonely just lack self awareness.

Anonymous

OP 12h

Yep, much to the mystery of many of my friends facial scaring doesn’t really phase me at all, and if it’s a straight scar (rather than a burn or acne pockmarks) I tend to find it a really attractive feature but other scarring doesn’t usually detract from someone’s physical attractiveness to me. I do have a huge thing for bone structure though. And my brain pumps out happy juice when I’m shorter than someone.

Anonymous

OP 11h

I think you’re wrong, women like different things just like men do. One of my guy friends consistently dates women a few years older than him, his girlfriend likes being taller than a guy in heels. They both got what they like. You just gotta find a person into your type.

Anonymous

#4 10h

*wrote girlfriend. Need to correct to wife. They had a Covid wedding.

Anonymous

#6 8h

That reply means you agree with them

Anonymous

#7 3h

It works cause they don’t expect that. It’s like fishing for a compliment and then they don’t get one