Anonymous #1 21h

What was their response?

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Anonymous OP 21h

It’s usually that “oh you’re just saying that because you have sex. I don’t have sex so that’s not possible” or something else. Even though I’m not having sex that often actually. They think bc they’ve never have sex that it wouldn’t be possible at all. And instead of being less focal about it and dependent on having it as soon as possible and as much as possible and living free lives. They act like they need escorts

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Anonymous #1 21h

Well keep saying it because that’s the most productive thing that you can tell them. After that, it’s just rumination.

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Anonymous #2 21h

I don’t think that that’s the most helpful if you’re telling them to go to therapy in an insulting way or literally insulting them

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Anonymous OP 21h

I’ve come to terms that not one single person is enough to help them no matter how many times I’ve said it. And resorted to slowly blocking them bc they’ll just use sexist insults at me in retaliation

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Anonymous #1 21h

As I said, once you’ve told them that, if they still don’t accept it, then it’s rumination. But This is the most productive way to have the conversation, because at least you’re validating the difficulty they’re facing, which is what’s needed to move them in a more positive direction.

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Anonymous OP 21h

There isn’t much validation because that’s a personal issue. And they need to personally come to terms with it. Trying to value their life through sex is unrealistic and unhealthy. I just block them because I’m not a licensed therapist and do not care to argue with someone that already sees women as objects because of their own motives that women are meant to be sexed and pleased and see us as less than and insult ppl bc of their lack of will to want help when it’s given

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Anonymous #1 21h

I don’t think you understood what I just said

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Anonymous OP 21h

I did. And I said I’m blocking them. The only person that can help an incel is themselves. Repeating myself is not going anywhere when they deliberately ignore any positive reinforcement, dig bigger holes, go back to red pill content, and generalize and insult women for their lack of women wanting to sleep with them. Because women do not owe men sex. So insulting women that don’t even know them and are simply helping is not a good look

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Anonymous #1 21h

You’re missing my point and going off on tangents. Just be decent. validate what’s true in their experience including the difficulty and tell them to accept the possibility of lifelong romantic and sexual exclusion. That’s it. If they keep going, that’s rumination. you’ve done all you can. But don’t bring up other fucking pipelines because that doesn’t help them at all. You can resign and be content.

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Anonymous OP 21h

I’m not going off on tangents I said I’m blocking them because I do not care to be harassed, threatened and insulted for trying to help. That’s decent for me. Because I was being decent so what’s wrong with blocking them?

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Anonymous #1 21h

Well, of course you can block them or not engage with them at all but if youre ever going to have a conversation with them, don’t bring up the pipelines and talk to them like a human being

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Anonymous OP 21h

I never said I did so where did that come from

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