Ask Women on Sidechat | Genuine question. Is it unattractive or a turn-off for a man to be open with you about our struggles (with mental health or otherwise)? This isn't intended to be a snide comment or to throw shade. I want to know.

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Genuine question. Is it unattractive or a turn-off for a man to be open with you about our struggles (with mental health or otherwise)? This isn't intended to be a snide comment or to throw shade. I want to know.

Anonymous 1w

No, not at all

Anonymous 1w

No, my bf and I tell each other all this stuff. How else would we know when not to info dump on each other about random topics of interest?

Anonymous 1w

I may get canceled for this, but.. it depends on how its done.

Anonymous 4d

No, in fact it’s a show of vulnerability that makes a guy more attractive to me tbh

Anonymous 1w

it’s so attractive when guys are open about their emotions. nothing more frustrating than a “nonchalant” guy who refuses to talk about it

Anonymous

#3 1w

Vulnerability is an opportunity for deeper connection, but too early in the relationship, too much vulnerability may raise concerns about manipulation.

Anonymous

#3 1w

I have had men prey on my empathy by telling me they struggled with su¡cidal tendencies, self harm, and low self-worth. I think its important to disclose these things maybe the first month or so of interest, but just like that. Simple, no graphic or emotional details. I respect that. These guys would just melt down and ask me to save them, and it was a way to gain control to keep me from leaving.

Anonymous

#3 1w

However, I have been with my boyfriend for years and if he came to me broken and snotty-faced or said anything those other guys said that most people find edgy cringe and manipulative, my heart would break for him and I would be SO thankful he felt comfortable coming to me with his vulnerabilities. It's all about context and intentions.

Anonymous

#3 1w

As someone who struggles with physical and mental health issues, I appreciate vulnerability. I recognize we all have our weaknesses, and sharing that with me means you trust me, which is both comforting and flattering. I think the best way to go about this though is by refraining from emotional dumping and recognize it's something that affects you but you are working on it.

Anonymous

#3 1w

Sorry for the long message, I hope this wasnt too overwhelming. I just wanted to give more insight because if you are a man who is genuinely curious about how we think, I want to give more than a yes/no answer because real life isn't as simple as that unfortunately.