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10 upvotes, 40 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in Ask Women. "This true?"
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Anonymous 10w

100%

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Anonymous 10w

Yes. First impressions and my first talk with you will tell me if you’re someone I’d potentially date or it’ll tell me if you’re wanting to date or you’re just bored, wasting my time, or wanting a hookup. Just a matter of what your energy is like

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Anonymous 10w

It’s usually in the wording. If a guy keeps calling me a “female” that’s a good tell. There’s a lot of buzz words that tip me off about how a guy is really like

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Anonymous 10w

Absolutely

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Anonymous 10w

hell nah i’m indecisive asf. i need at least 5 months prolly more to decide if i wanna be in a relationship w someone

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Anonymous 10w

It’s less time than that like 30 sec

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Anonymous 10w

It’s more like I can tell if he has a chance or not if his personality is good enough.

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Anonymous 10w

Try ten seconds

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Anonymous 10w

No not really, been with my bf for three years now and I didn’t really see myself dating him until like two or three months into knowing him

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Anonymous 10w
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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

To clarify, this means that u WOULD date the guy, not that u will fs (?).

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 10w

So first impressions rlly do matter

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

That kind of makes me more nervous abt approaching 😭💀

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

I mean that in the 10 min we talk, if you say or do shit thats bad or good depends on whether im even gonna keep talking to you

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Anonymous replying to -> hellraiser 10w

So u could be friends w/ a guy for 5 months and then decide u wanna date him?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

uhh prolly not tbh

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 10w

What?! How?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Do u just mean appearance?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

For me it’s less first impressions and more how you act. Appearance doesn’t play much of a role. If I find out quickly our morals align? Then yeah I might be able to see it. I can very quickly tell when someone isn’t for me.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 10w

So let’s say I bring up I’m liberal and how important education is to me. That does it for u?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

I mean as long as I can tell youre telling the truth. And not an extremist

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Well they can tell if the man is awkward or likeable in very short time

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

That’s not it of course. Being a liberal and caring about education is important to me but so is: how you speak to me, if you are nice, how you talk about others- any of those being negative? No dice.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 10w

This ^^

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

i guess it does take a shorter amount of time to establish a romantic or sexual connection.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 10w

So u like when a guy is nice? I thought that makes u want to be friends more than date?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

If I’m not willing to be friends with someone I won’t be willing to date them. They absolutely need to be nice for me to even consider dating them.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 10w

That makes sense. And if u date someone who’s not as nice, it’s bc they still seemed nice when u first met them

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Exactly. My qualifications for a romantic partner are much higher than one for just my friends. But if they don’t even seem to be a friend? What’s the point.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 10w

I wonder how this compares to guys. Would I date a girl who isn’t nice and I wouldn’t be friends with? That’s an interesting question…

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

That answer should be no, but feel we might sometimes date a girl who isn’t the nicest if we find her physically attractive

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Yeah I would never do that. I would never date someone who isn’t nice because of physical attractiveness. It’s just against my morals.

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Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 10w

Yeah…I see where guys can go wrong sometimes in that respect. Hard for many of us to separate sexual attraction from the other stuff

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

That's jusf weird dude

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 10w

😭. It’s true

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 10w

Fr?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Depending on the guy, just based on the way he’s dressed or the way he greets me that can immediately tell me if he’s dateable for me personally. If his pants are sagging down his butt, (like he’s going for that style) immediate no. If he greets me with a pathetic “wassup babygirl you bad asf” then that’s also a no😂 I’m looking for a guy who has his stuff together, is respectful, and has strong values that he exudes through his behavior

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 10w

U mean “wassup baby girl u bad asf” doesn’t work? 😭💀

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

Yeah that’s a big problem. I can find someone attractive but I don’t want sex unless I’m in a relationship.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10w

That's why you get denied tbh. We can tell when men just want us for sex

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