Ask Women on Sidechat | In every relationship I’ve been in, the guy will just game the entire time while I’m in bed with him. Once he’s done gaming, he sleeps. Very minimal cuddling. Minimal talking. Is this just the norm in relationships with men that game?

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Ask Women 4w

In every relationship I’ve been in, the guy will just game the entire time while I’m in bed with him. Once he’s done gaming, he sleeps. Very minimal cuddling. Minimal talking. Is this just the norm in relationships with men that game?

Anonymous 4w

Girl… i mean this in the kindest way possible… that’s just what you get for dating boys instead of men. It’s not even that they game. But that they rather game instead of being with you. I’m sorry but that ain’t going to change. My recommendation is to cut your losses and date someone more mature

Anonymous 4w

My husband (25) does this and has been doing it the entirety of our relationship (5 years). I’m at my wits end with it honestly. For me, it has not gotten better unfortunately. When he’s not on the game he’s on his phone- same thing tho, we don’t talk because he’s locked in to his phone :/

Anonymous 4w

My first ex would actually lock himself in his game room. We were long distance. Whenever I visited, hed legit locked himself in his separate game room

Anonymous 4w

In a new relationship and just spend about 12 hours at his place. Majority of it was him playing his video games while I laid in the corner watching tiktoks. No talking. No touching. No cuddling. Once he was done gaming, he was too tired and went to sleep 😑 We’re not long distance but our schedules are tight

Anonymous 4w

No. My gamer bf comes over to my place, no games for him to be distracted by

Anonymous 4w

Some people might say yes but it’s not a norm I would personally be accepting of. My bf is a gamer and does spend multiple hours doing it everyday but we also have our hours where we talk and cuddle each other. Hobbies are a good thing but you need balance in a relationship

Anonymous 4w

Y’all didn’t want us around or actively support other women who hate on men. It’s like douchebags that voted for trump- why give them the time of day? Y’all have your “power” we are going to keep our peace. Also, you wanted to be in relationships with them in the first place. You weren’t forced. What made ALL of them say “fuck it, all I have left is my game…”? Seems like the common factor is you in a bunch of relationships with guys that don’t want to be around you.

Anonymous 4w

Gaming is a lot more peaceful than dealing with neediness

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Anonymous 4w

Idk what do you expect if you aren’t actively going to have a convo with him or fuck. ATP just go on dates if your expectation is attention

-3

Anonymous

#4 4w

Oh shit I’m sorry girl. My dude and I only been dating for a couple weeks but ngl if everytime we hang out, he’s just gaming the entire time, I’m ending it. Idk why these men would rather game game game than spend a little time with their girl. I love social media and tiktok but my phone stays off when he has his attention on me

Anonymous

OP 4w

No reason we book a hotel and he brought his gaming console. That’s suppose to be US time

Anonymous

OP 4w

And that’s the other thing. We plan stuff and then his phone comes out and again the cycle repeats. We don’t talk in the car, or before dinner dates or whatever. If we do it’s related to the shit he’s watching on his phone. It’s exhausting

Anonymous

#4 4w

Don’t let your husband stop you from finding your dream man

Anonymous

OP 4w

Preach sis

Anonymous

OP 4w

Correction: these lil boys… no actual mature man would pick a game over their girl!

Anonymous

OP 4w

No way he brought a whole console to a hotel stay with his girlfriend! Thats like pathology!

Anonymous

#6 4w

Keep that same mentality when you’re in your late 30s

Anonymous

OP 4w

You’re in your late 30’s?

Anonymous

#6 4w

No but are you having the same mindset when you’re in your 30s and you start seeing your age mates have children and get married. The whole “games are more peaceful” mindset?

Anonymous

OP 4w

Or after work, you’re going straight to your games and neglecting your wife and children

Anonymous

#7 4w

How can she have a convo with him if he goes straight to gaming?!?

Anonymous

#7 4w

Relationships are inherently about giving at least part of your attention to someone else and they’re not just about sex, you’re not obligated to date if you’re not willing to do that

Anonymous

#8 4w

Here come the downvotes from butthurt women. The same ones that say “men can speak their mind!”

Anonymous

OP 4w

Sorry, what? He legitimately brought his gaming console to a hotel to game??? Does he touch grass?

Anonymous

#2 4w

Well they went to the hotel together it’s not like he was gaming the entire time he had to set it up

Anonymous

#3 4w

Not everyone wants to just sit there and stare at each other in bed. Hence why I suggested an actual activity instead of

Anonymous

#7 4w

You realize it takes two to have a conversation right? And the fact that he’s bringing his gaming console on a trip at all is wild, talk to your fucking partner. You are suppose to like your girlfriend and enjoy spending time with her, you know that right?

Anonymous

#2 4w

She maintains as much agency as him. She mentions spending time on tik tok the entire time. She isn’t blame free

Anonymous

#7 4w

You’re trolling. I only use TikTok because he’s legit gaming the entire time without talking. Headphones on so he can’t even listen to me. What am I supposed to do? Just lie there?

Anonymous

#7 4w

What else is she supposed to do exactly when he’s gaming with headphones on

Anonymous

OP 4w

I try to watch his games but I don’t find anything fun about shooting things with their brain juices oozing out until they’re dead. I don’t want to watch that for many many hours straight

Anonymous

OP 4w

If he’s going to game in my presence he’s either playing a game with me or playing a game I like so I can watch, only appropriate way to do it imo. He’s can play games whenever he wants, when you hangout it’s supposed to be time for you guys😭