Sidechat icon
Join communities on Sidechat Download
Can someone explain to me, the lesbian cheat on your husband fantasy? Why do some lesbians do that?
upvote 8 downvote

🍓
Anonymous 20h

What are you talking about? Lesbians don’t have husbands

upvote 19 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 18h

lesbians are people. sometimes people do immoral things for selfish reasons. for example, someone might specifically attempt to seduce someone they know is married as an ego boost/to make themselves feel particularly desirable and powerful. it’s not something that lesbians do any more or less than any other demographic. it seems like you took one tweet and extrapolated it into an invented phenomenon.

upvote 11 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 20h

Lesbians, wanting other women to cheat on their husbands with other women*

upvote 8 downvote
🍓
Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

So I’ve literally never heard of that. Where have you heard this because it isn’t in any of the queer spaces I’ve been in. That just doesn’t sound real

upvote 16 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 19h
post
upvote 1 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #2 18h

It’s like you missed the word “some”

upvote 1 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

I’m answering your question. why might some lesbians do that? same reason anyone else might, ego. there’s not a special reason that’s specific to lesbians

upvote 8 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #2 18h

I appreciate your answer, but you could’ve just given me that answer instead of acting like I’m making this thing up. It’s not the first time that that has been said, there’s songs about it. It’s a movie trope. have you ever heard of the late Bloomer trope?

upvote 1 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #2 18h

Late Bloomer trope or being Ross’d

upvote -1 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

the “predatory lesbian” who preys on and seduces good straight women is indeed a common homophobic trope in media. that doesn’t mean it’s an accurate reflection of reality

upvote 11 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #2 18h

Then why does it keep getting made and why do so many people endorse it?

upvote 0 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

i’ll assume you’re asking genuinely and explain. the tweet you’re referencing here is clearly a tongue in cheek response to the common lesbophobic idea that lesbians will inevitably be attracted to men. the op is making a crass retort. it’s like the “i’ll fuck your mom” jokes— it’s not meant to be taken as a serious threat. i doubt many people are sincerely endorsing participating in adultery.

upvote 7 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

the reason the trope keeps showing up in media is because people continue to hold homophobic beliefs that are more rooted in anxiety and unfamiliarity than reality

upvote 9 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #2 18h

BoyFriend by Dove Cameron, good luck, babe by Chappell Roan, better than your boyfriend by kwn, what can I do Renee rapp, not my fault from the mean girls soundtrack(the newer one)

upvote 0 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #2 18h

I'm being genuine as hell. I know you say it's not meant to be taken seriously but it sounds like it's meant to be taken seriously when it's a constant trope being said by sapphic people themselves. so I don’t think it’s just Lesophobia by people that aren’t lesbians. And I don’t think that that’s the fairest characterization of what’s happening here.

upvote 1 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

think about how many songs by straight women talk about stealing someone’s man or by straight men talk about stealing someone’s girl. it’s signaling desirability and status in a hyperbolic way. it’s strange to latch onto it as a specifically lesbian phenomenon when it’s a culturally ubiquitous sentiment that is orders of magnitude more common in straight artists

upvote 9 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

also, all of these examples you’re citing to inform your “why do lesbians do this” question are, notably, not examples of lesbians doing this, but of invented scenarios. song lyrics. movie tropes. tweets. is this actually something you have seen happen in real life?

upvote 11 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #2 17h

Sure, they make songs about stealing someone’s husband, man, girl, or wife—but not about stealing a lesbian’s girlfriend. The only thing comparable to your point is songs about “bulldyking,” but it’s generally understood that that’s wrong in that specific way, and it almost always gets called out. No one calls out the thing I’m criticizing.

upvote 0 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #2 17h

Why do you assume that they’re only invented scenarios? Does art not imitate life?. but besides what has been said in art or online… yes I have seen lesbians endorse that trope in real life

upvote 0 downvote
🍓
Anonymous replying to -> OP 16h

Your evidence is a tweet that has 152 likes? I don’t this that’s substantial enough. And like 2 said there’s SO many songs about men cheating on women or trying to get someone else’s girlfriend. Why are you pointing this at lesbians? Also have you ever listened to the songs you suggested as an example?

upvote 8 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 15h

My evidence is not just a tweet with 152 like. My evidence is evidenced by the fact that the occurrence has a media trope attributed to it, and I just used the tweet as an example of it. I could give you anecdotal evidence of things that have happened to me personally, but that wouldn’t do anything for us in his current conversation.

upvote 1 downvote
🍓
Anonymous replying to -> OP 14h

There is media for many things. This does not make them true. Stereotypes are much more common in media than they are in reality. You could find tweets and songs about everything.

upvote 10 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> strawberry_hair 10h

The songs that i listed were charting

upvote 1 downvote
🍓
Anonymous replying to -> OP 10h

And? I could pull out hundreds of charting songs about any one romantic topic.

upvote 1 downvote