Anonymous #1 5w

i didn’t end it because i wanted to leave him i ended it because the way he spoke to me really hurt and he wouldn’t take accountability. i still love him but i needed to show i can’t be treated like that. i’m just wondering if anyone has had a situation where the guy reached back out after some space.

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Anonymous OP 5w

That’s a very fair reason to end things, I would’ve done the same personally. If you told him that you wanted to talk again after you both had space and time to think, then yea he’ll prob reach out. If you just straight up told him you wanted to break up, then prob not.

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Anonymous #1 5w

when we talked in person i told him i loved him and didn’t want things to end but that i needed him to understand how hurtful the way he spoke to me was. i never said ‘we’re done forever.’ i just needed space so he could think about it too. so i’m not sure if he thinks the door is closed or not.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Then yea he def could respond. But If he doesn’t and you want to break no contact, be absolutely clear that you won’t tolerate his behavior again. I’m not saying that this is what he’s doing, but he could just be trying to see if you’ll cave and forgive him regardless if he changes.

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Anonymous #1 5w

that makes sense. i don’t plan on reaching out first because i need to see if he actually reflects and cares enough to fix things. i love him but i’m not going back to being treated that way. if he reaches out with real accountability and change then we’ll see. if not then that tells me everything.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Amazing, you definitely have a much better handle on this than I originally thought, so I apologize if I came off a bit condescending. I hope he realizes how much he hurt you and changes for the better.

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Anonymous #1 5w

thank you that really means a lot. i’m trying to handle it with as much clarity as i can because i do love him but i also know what i deserve. i really hope he reflects too but if not then at least i know i stood up for myself.

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