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I’m 19 and a guy and never had sex. I just got asked by my also virgin Gf to have it. Any advice? I wanna make sure I’m good at it and don’t do something wrong and make her feel as comfortable as possible.
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Anonymous 19h

just be safe and communicate w her throughout the whole experience. foreplay is important but also everyone is different so i can’t really tell you exactly what to do but just make sure you continuously check in and ask her if what you’re doing is ok and what she wants etc. and it’s ok if it’s a little awkward the first time

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Anonymous 19h

The first time is often awkward. Just start slow, start with kissing, let it get more passionate, then let your hands move slowly and ask if what you’re doing is ok (once or twice not 80 times). Also use protection! For a condom, pinch the top so there’s no air in it then roll down the condom all the way to the base of your penis.

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Anonymous 18h

Don’t go into it with the mindset that u want it to be perfect and instead with the mindset that you both want to be happy and satisfied no matter what that looks like. Neither of you might cum but you’d be happy you got the first time over with and you probs learned a billion things from that one experience. Communication is the only way to figure out how to have good sex

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Anonymous 18h

Condoms are stretchy so it will stretch out the condom and go there if you pinch out the space. If you leave the little air bubble though it’s more likely to pop which is part of the reason condoms aren’t 100% effective.

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Anonymous 18h

ALSO don’t be alarmed if she isn’t moaning at all, even while she finishes. It’s more of a porn thing to moan the whole time, if she does though it doesn’t mean she’s faking, it means she’s probably just choosing not to suppress it

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Anonymous 11h

it probably won’t be that good the first time, but it’s nothing to stress about, just focus on each other having a great time regardless of the sexual activity and don’t be too shy to laugh

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Anonymous 3h

SALIVA FOR LUBRICANT. Neither me nor my first bf understood its necessity at the start and lemme tell you it was AWFUL.

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Anonymous 18h

Take it slow and be communicative with each other about what you'd want to do or try. Your first time with someone is not about whether you perform well, what matters is that you both feel good and have a safe and fun time together. And use protection!

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Anonymous 1h

it’s ok for things to be awkward or go wrong!! just laugh them off, and take your time figuring out what makes her feel good. it’s gonna take a while probably for her to feel comfortable giving you marching orders so look up some articles by women on how to pleasure one. i find it’s very helpful to consult written guides as opposed to porn because produced porn is meant to LOOK good first before it feels good. gotta get that camera angle!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 19h

also external stimulation is important if she’s comfortable with that. since a lot of us won’t finish from just penetration (especially the first time)

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 18h

Omg I’ve been having sex for 4 years and didn’t know the way to get air out of a condom until u said that. It’s irrelevant to me now cuz I’m pregnant and gonna marry my baby daddy/bf but where does the jizz go if there’s no space at the top??

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 18h

Oh my god thank god It didn’t pop with the man I used condoms with

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16h

honestly yes. best take right here! it’s serious but if there’s funny noises or whatever, don’t be afraid to laugh together! it’s very vulnerable and sweet and don’t push yourself to do something if it’s uncomfortable!

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 16h

the empty space is still there but there’s not air in it so it doesn’t risk coming off

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 14h

Haha no worries at all. I’m glad you were lucky, but if you ever use condoms in the future, you’ll have this information! It also helps to make sure nothing leaks out from the bottom <3

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1h

LUBRICANT PERIOD just get lube

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